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I don't know the answer because it is probably different for everyone.
It has been 7 months since Mom passed. My sister and I are going through a very odd stage in our grieving but we are grieving more now than when she passed. For 10 years Mom was a negative, whining, complaining, stubborn and argumentative person. We did everything for her even though she lived in a lovely IL facility, had plenty of money, etc. She sat in her apartment and made herself miserable. She drove us to distraction and we often discussed with the family that in her 90's she was so blessed with good health but chose to be unhappy and wanted to make us miserable too. It seemed to us the best thing for her was to pass in her sleep since she was so darn unhappy and could not accept she was aging and never enjoyed anything. But she lived to be 101, and broke her pelvis, ended in a NH and slowly faded away. It was awful to see, and when she passed, we felt only relief, very little grief or mourning.
Now, 7 months later, we are beginning to grieve, to remember the person she was when we were young. Now we grieve for the kind, quiet, gentle person she used to be before she was 70 (my age!) and that is the person we miss so much. Now we are suffering the "what if's", what if we had been more patient, what could we have done for her that we didn't do, did she know we loved her, did she know or remember we used to get so upset with her, etc. Now I lie awake at night picturing how she looked those last two months, and it pains me so. I pray that in the end she was peaceful and didn't know the end was coming, and that somehow she was aware we were there that day to say goodbye (she was deaf, couldn't hear at all, and was on morphine and tranquilizer so was out of it). I wish I knew the answer for you. I suppose time will help, and good memories and remembering that she would not have wanted you to stop living because she is gone.
When my mom was able, many years before she passed she used to live to garden. I took some plants from my moms garden when we moved and bought others that I remembered her liking thru the years. Now when I am out in the garden i often think of my mom. Especially when her see butterfly's around her butterfly bush. Another thing that helped me was to talk about my mom. Just little things like, when we have meatloaf I have to say as we all sit down, this was Nans favorite meal. It took me a good year of just feeling so lost but it honestly gets better with time. Your mom is truly with you every day 😇
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
It has been 7 months since Mom passed. My sister and I are going through a very odd stage in our grieving but we are grieving more now than when she passed. For 10 years Mom was a negative, whining, complaining, stubborn and argumentative person. We did everything for her even though she lived in a lovely IL facility, had plenty of money, etc. She sat in her apartment and made herself miserable. She drove us to distraction and we often discussed with the family that in her 90's she was so blessed with good health but chose to be unhappy and wanted to make us miserable too. It seemed to us the best thing for her was to pass in her sleep since she was so darn unhappy and could not accept she was aging and never enjoyed anything. But she lived to be 101, and broke her pelvis, ended in a NH and slowly faded away. It was awful to see, and when she passed, we felt only relief, very little grief or mourning.
Now, 7 months later, we are beginning to grieve, to remember the person she was when we were young. Now we grieve for the kind, quiet, gentle person she used to be before she was 70 (my age!) and that is the person we miss so much. Now we are suffering the "what if's", what if we had been more patient, what could we have done for her that we didn't do, did she know we loved her, did she know or remember we used to get so upset with her, etc. Now I lie awake at night picturing how she looked those last two months, and it pains me so. I pray that in the end she was peaceful and didn't know the end was coming, and that somehow she was aware we were there that day to say goodbye (she was deaf, couldn't hear at all, and was on morphine and tranquilizer so was out of it).
I wish I knew the answer for you. I suppose time will help, and good memories and remembering that she would not have wanted you to stop living because she is gone.
An easy answer to your question, you don't. You learn to adjust your life without her there, but the pain and loss, never truly go away.