We moved our parents (ages 93 and 92) into an assisted living facility almost 3 weeks ago and they are unable to process not only why they are there but also exactly where they are (which is only 5 miles from the home they lived in for 53 years). Their mental states have actually deteriorated and they are worse now than when we moved them. Is this a common occurrence?
Also, any move at that age can cause some deterioration, however I'd guess that there wasn't much choice but to do what you did. Don't let guilt get in your way. Continue to visit and support them, ask the social worker and others what more you can do and perhaps check with the doctor for suggestions. Some people can make these transitions and get through okay. Others don't do so well. Life isn't generally easy for people in their 90s and choices are limited.
I'm glad you had the family to make this decision together.
Take care,
Carol
independence. I do not think a person should be taken back to their former home it only opens old wounds. Bring in things they request that can be practically accommodated in the new living space, although it is best to make these choices before the actual move. Everyone is different so you will have to decide for yourself when you feel parents are sufficiently settled if ever to return to a former abode. imagine how you would feel if you home and belongings were completely destroyed, it is a huge adjustment.