Thank goodness it looks like FIL and MIL have medi cal in the works. Somehow they decided to cooperate and get the documents required online with the help of the nursing home social worker. However, yesterday afternoon my husband got a call from NH that the two of them had been causing trouble all day trying to bust out. They set off the alarm several times. This place has told us we need to be looking for another permanent place for them as they only agreed to take them temporarily and they can't jump to the top of the list. FIL still thinks he can go home and take care of himself . We've explained several times that the Dr. has said he can not leave but he thinks if he can just get home , he can do it. He also says he's going to save the house from foreclosure ( is $22,000 behind on mortgage and 19 months delinquent). How can we get through to him that he's not getting out? We even showed him the paperwork with the doctor's statement and also had the social worker explain the situation. He refuses to accept it. Plus he calls my husband everyday at work and makes demands. My husband finally told him " I have to work" but now feels guilty. We drive 3 hours to visit every weekend but told them we can not come this weekend because we both have our granddaughters birthday party and I work at church this Sunday but FIL ignores it and orders my husband to bring him the house keys and the car keys. I would like tips on handling this. Tia