Mom was not a parishioner anywhere but I can book a spot at the local Catholic church. She loved being Catholic, but told me to handle her funeral any way that I wanted. I believe in God, but I am not Catholic. I don't love Catholic funerals and they don't allow eulogies at this one. Should I give her a Catholic funeral? What opinions do you have? She has Catholic family (some religious, some not) and diverse friends of various faiths. It will be a small group of 20-25
So her family had a much shorter service. The priest, dressed in a business suit with the purple "sash" around his neck, came to the funeral home; spoke eloquently of the almost 100 year old generation, provided an abbreviated ritual (I don't know what it's specifically called), and the whole service was over in less than 1/2 hour. None of the elderly had to get up and sit down repeatedly.
This might be something to consider.
I think the real issue though is what do you want to provide for her and her remaining friends and family - a more formal, longer ceremony in a church or a less formal, brief get together in a funeral parlor?
The point is that they're coming to pay homage to your mother and to comfort you; they could do that in either place, even in your home if you prefer - just have an open house. I think that's what I would do, or just have a short service at a funeral parlor.
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