Going under financially...

Hugemom, oh my gosh, to sorry to read that the finances have tackled you. Yes, sell the house if you feel it is draining your wallet... you can sell the house "as is" as there are buyers out there that like fixing up a house. An experienced "as is" Realtor can advise you on what to do.

Sorry that your hubby had disconnected himself from the finances. With his major health issues he probably feels bad enough that he can't provide for his family like he thought he could.

Then there is the next home. There are mortgage loans out there for you but the interest rate would be higher than normal. Rentals today usually cost the same as a monthly mortgage, depending on where you live. There are landlords will take a dog, even a large sized one with a pet security deposit. Another idea, does your adult child(ren) have space in their home that you and hubby can rent? Not sure how that would work out. Just a thought.

Trimming one's budget is an excellent idea. Have you dropped cable TV or are now getting just the basics? What about a basic cellphone that doesn't have Internet unless that is the only way you do have access to the Internet? Cut the daily newspaper except for Sunday's delivery which has a lot of coupons. Use tap water instead of bottled water, unless the tap water is hard to shallow. Lower the heat, bundle up in layers.

Selling the house as is would be a great starting point. Let me ask, what "work" needs to be done to the house? A new roof, a new air conditioner or heater? Or is it just cosmetic stuff. By selling the house, you can move to a less expensive area and would have some money left over. Bankruptcy might be an option but talk to an attorney and an experienced real estate agent.

Hi, you sure have a lot on your plate. Sometimes you have to think 'outside the box ' to improve your situation. Here are some ideas and questions.
You say, Hubby has to stay in our home for us to get the full SS.. WHAT does that mean. Social Security is based upon earnings, etc - not where you live. Can you elaborate??
For rent dot com has apartments in your area listed for $500 - 750/month. Would that fit better into your budget?
3 food pantries came up for your community. Are you taking advantage of that service? Most don't give you all of your food, but the non perishables typically offered can help stretch that food budget.
Have you considered a part time job to help supplement your income?
Have you recorded EVERY penny spent over a period of several weeks. I coach folks who are having financial problems and when I have them do this, it is amazing that they can immediately see where changes can be made. The $1.50 (or more) for a cup of coffee out, lottery tickets, not using coupons, etc can all add up.
let us know if any of the ideas posted might help you.

Hugemom, Evermore99 had a brilliant idea. I say this answer because of experience. Please contact a Bankruptcy attorney and have him look at your financials. There are two forms of bankruptcy which is Chapter 13 which is where your finances are reorganized and where your creditors agree to smaller payments. Chapter 7 is where
your debts are wiped away and written off by your creditors. If you look at Chapter 7, your entire credit card debt is cleared by a judge, and that will immediately give you $1,000 more a month to live on. In my case I did not own a home, but was able to keep my car. You lawyer will be able to make recommendations here and the bank could look at reducing payments to make it within your financial means.

The judge will look at all your expenses and your income, and based upon that will make a decision.

As far as home repairs, Contact Habitat for Humanity and ask them if they would assist or know of avenues where you can ask for and get help. You may also see if Home Depot has anything which I believe they do. And this could be done at minimum or no cost to you. Or even reach out to churches nearby. You would be surprised what you can find out and how people can jump into action.

Also, there is no shame in Bankruptcy. I felt shame until I go into court and I saw people getting debts cleared or $100K, $250K, in credit card charges and loans because they decided to start their own businesses, etc and after that and after a few years my credit rating is now above 750.

Good luck and keep us updated.

I am beginning to think bankruptcy is going to be the way to go. My son is trying to be helpful by suggesting how to cut down on our expenses, but to save $30 or $40 a month on something would not help much. I shop at Aldi’s, who does not accept coupons, but their prices are very good. I cannot get even a part time job because my health is not the greatest. I suffer from fibromyalgia and lately have been having a great many bad days. Plus, I am hesitant to leave hubby alone. We had a house fire hear a few years ago and the senior owner of the home was killed. What’s killing us, in truth, are the mortgage, lot fee, and the two credit card payments. Because our loan is not a typical home loan, I don’t believe we can refinance. I was able to lower the one credit card payment last year, but may call them next week and see if I can do it again.
We have a friend who is a lawyer and I’m thinking of calling him as well. Thank you all for your help!

Evermore, What needs to be done to our house is mostly cosmetic. A good cleaning from wall-washing to floor scrubbing. 2 cupboard doors are missing in the kitchen and one in the bath. The wall by hubby’s bed needs to be patched and some paint needs to be touched up.  A few planks of the vinyl floor are coming up which could probably be fixed with construction adhesive. Everything else is ok as far as I know.

If you declare bankruptcy .. chapter 7... you will lose the house...but...

You will get to live there rent and mortgage free until the bank does foreclosure. This can take 6 months or more...buying you time to same for the move. And investigate where to move.

Starting 2 months before you declare bankruptcy..you stop making any payments on credit cards, etc. another sayings.
Put the savings into those things you will have to have. Have an attorney direct you.

Be smart... talk to 3 attorneys about this...first. The consult is always free. Do not let them try to talk you into a chapter 13.

Go check out the website bkforum. There are attorneys there that can give you advice.

Bankruptcy is a chance to get a fresh start...and you need that.

Katiekate is correct. Do not let them talk you into Chapter 13, because this does not erase the debt. It reschedules payments out but at this time you need cash flow. I also agree with her that definitely meed to speak to a couple attorneys that specialize in bankruptcy. There is one firm that I found on lawyers.com which is located in your town and the name of the firm is Krugliak, Wilkens, Griffiths and their number is 877-876-9958. They have locations in Canton, Alliance, and Akron. Let them know your circumstances not only with your debts, but the finances, your health, etc and if they can't help have them make a referral.

I also noticed that there is a home depot in your town. Their number is 330-422-0401 and just speak to the customer service desk and let them know your circumstances, and if they know if there is a group or person that they could recommend for these small jobs.

After this and since you have an illness as you stated; you may want to ask the attorney about a referral for a disability attorney. If you can at least get a partial disability, have the credit card debts cleared, and you have your 2 social security checks; this is all you may need to breathe again. Think about it.

Also, there is a home repair outfit by the name of Spot-onhomes.com and there telephone number is 330-283-8029. These would be the people to call if Home Depot is unavailable to help.

Good Luck and keep us up to date.

I thought of something else. Get rid of your land telephone line and only have one cell phone which you manage yourself. Between the both of these, that will be another $200 a month or in that area.

These are all wonderful suggestions and I am so grateful to you all for caring. I was not aware that with Chapter 7, we would lose our house. The ramifications of this would just about guarantee that I would also lose my dog. Silly, I know. But she’s pretty much all I have right now.
I have spoken with a realtor today. I could tell she has some doubt we could secure a loan and suggests renting. My son mentioned FHA. The realtor sounds like the sort who would be
knowledgeable about that sort of loan. I will also be calling our local Agency on Aging tomorrow to see what help is out there. I appreciate all your research on my behalf. We do not have a landline but I am considering selling my fancy iPhone to pay off the installment plan and canceling my cell plan. I’d then go with a non-contract phone for a third of the cost of the fancy phone. Status, at this point, is meaningless.
Thank you again. I feel so much less alone since posting my original question.

I use Ooma as my VoIP "home" phone (through my computer/internet connection) which is $6/month and have a cell phone through Consumer Cellular which is a month-by-month plan that you can scale up or down each month. I pay $30/month for that. I have a smartphone (Android - Huawei, which I bought through Consumer Cellular) so I can get/send texts, check my email and internet. So my total phone bill is $36/month with no contracts.

And I totally understand wanting to keep your dog. I would think you could find rental properties that would allow that.

I can fully understand your concerns about the dog. When my marriage ended and I did not know where I was going to be living I had 4 pets. It took over 2 years before I was settled and knew I could keep the pets.

I also had to be prepared to give them up, which was heart breaking. In the end, I was able to keep them, but it was a very difficult time.

Check with local animal rescues, I know where I live that they sometimes arrange for people to foster animals in the short term. Knowing that there maybe a place for your dog to stay while you look for a new pet friendly home may help with the worry.

It sounds like most the work needed on your home is elbow grease with some minor repairs. Talk with a realtor about what you could get for the home with or without the work being done on it. It the difference is not greater than the effort, do not do the work. If you are going for bankruptcy, then you probably will not do any work.

Check in your state as to the costs of filing for bankruptcy, where I live it costs $1500 to file, but I am in Canada, so the rules will be different. It is a shock to find out there is a cost involved, when you do not have enough to meet your bills.

Make a budget and stick to it. You may be surprised to see how much you are spending on extras. The $30.00 your son is suggesting you save is $360.00 per year. That would be a healthy payment on a credit card.

Budgeting and financial planning is something I enjoy helping people with. One obstacle is figuring out where the money is being spent. We all tend to under estimate how much we spend and where we spend it. It is a week into January, record everything you have spent so far this month, even if it is with 'found money', the $5 bill you found in a jacket pocket, or the gift card you received for Christmas. Continue for the month. Make sure you add in bank fees, interest on credit cards, late fees on bill payments.

Look at your grocery bill, where can you cut costs? Does the store discount meat if you go first thing in the morning? Can you eat less meat, or augment it with other sources of protein, eggs, beans, lentils etc? Do you eat produce in season when it is less expensive? Are you eating all the groceries you buy, or are some being tossed, because they spoil before you can eat them? Do you have produce markets nearby? Where I live I can save up to 50% of fruit and vegies when I buy from the produce market as opposed to the grocery store.

It can be surprising where money is being spent without our really noticing. I am a tea drinking and it costs $2.00 for a cup of tea at the cafeteria at my Uni. I drink two cups of tea a day while at school. I carry a travel mug, my tea and use a kettle in a lounge to make my tea, thus saving $4 per pay or $80.00 per month. My electric bill is $80.00 per month in the winter (when I cannot use my clothes line).

For one client, I recently discovered he is paying an average of $45.00 for month to service a line of credit, while $1300 is sitting in an investment account, not earning any interest. Now to convince him to put the cash against the line of credit, so reduce the interest payable.

Budgeting may not help you get out of the situation you are currently in, but it will help you avoid getting into this situation again.

I think in your first post, you stated that you cannot afford for your hubby to go into care, as you will lose his share of SS, which you need to continue to live in the house. I am guessing he would be applying for Medicare. Have you checked to see if there are any seniors housing places near you that accept pets so you can keep the dog if you dh moves into care?

Never, ever give up a landline telephone. When you call 911, the emergency Dispatcher automatically sees your name and home address, and if for some medical reason you cannot talk, the Dispatcher will automatically send out EMT and a fire truck as a well fare check.

I realize some cellphone have a GPS ping, that maybe an extra charge. If one is using a cellphone without such an option, emergency can only pin down one's location from the nearest cell-tower, and if one lives in a neighborhood of 400 homes around that cell tower, that slows down response time greatly.

Such a situation was a story line on the brand new "9-1-1" TV show where a family just moved into their new home, a young daughter was home alone when she hears a break in... she called 911 on her cellphone, but she didn't know her address, all the houses were the same color. It took emergency a lot of time to locate the house, where they used a fire truck with the siren, going up and down every street in this huge subdivision, until the Dispatcher could hear the siren, and eventually narrow down the house.

What if this situation was a person having heart attack, lot of very precious minutes were wasted.

Yes, of course...in chapter 7 the whole goal is to liquidate to pay the creditors whatever can be liquidated...and then to eliminate all remaining debt.

So, if you cannot afford the house...then you would not be allowed to re-affirm that debt... you would get to exempt a certain amount of equity in the house and car...a certain amount in cash, etc (depends on the state rules). The rest is taken over by the trustee and liquidated. If the house has no equity... then you let the bank take it.

You get the benefit of having no debt and no further worries about house and house payments.

Preparing for chapter 7 allows. You time to get some amount of financial footing before it is all gone.  

Honestly, it is your choice to sink under the financial burden or keep the pet. But, it looks like it is going to come down to that choice. Just don't wait until you lose everything and the pets too.