My concern is that some of these neighbors are on the board in the condos and have the power to make decisions and have tendencies towards bossiness. They seem to be paying attention to how often I am doing laundry (daily) and asking if mom is incontinent, etc. I am re-luctant to give them a full report as it seems to me this would be inviting them into areas of our life that are none of their business.
I live with my mom, who will be 96 yrs. in April. It IS getting more challenging mostly due to staying on top of the toileting issues but I am hiring help more often, mostly cause I am getting more burned out. Overall Mom seems to be doing pretty well actually.
Cadams
"Is your mother incontinent?"
"Why on earth would you ask just a personal question?"
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"If she were, is that against the rules?"
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"Thank you so much for your interest in Mom's health. Her doctor says she is doing well. Of course, I cannot reveal confidential information."
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"We're doing just fine in the condo Mom has owned for three decades."
"We're managing, thank you. Are you?"
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