GMA is in nursing home in WI. GMA, moved with her one daughter, (not my mom), a few states away after GMP passed. That daughter thought, she could handle care. She could not, after isolating her from the rest of us that could. She put her in a crapy little town care facility states away from the rest of us. We took it in stride, best we could.
GMA developed pressure sore on heel. As Aunt began to not care about going to see her, once isolated. This was in summer of '14. GMA, not a complainer, started to need oxy every 4 hours for the pain associated with heel pressure sore. Finally saw a pix of the thing. It is huge. It is BLACK. Distributed photo to family. Have, MD, RN, LPN, ER Anesthesiologist, PT guy in MY extended family.
MD relative told me GMA is likely to need limb cut off at knee, provided there is adequate blood supply at that level. But Dr ordered angiogram at thigh level at appt . at wound care facility in Eau Clare tomorrow after learning of families talents. Soo thinking he thinks thing is going to need cut off at torso. Poor lady is 90. Best person you'd ever meet. My last living GMA.
I want to systematically cut the owner of this "care facility" off at the knees for may years to come, to repay him for cutting off my GMA at the knees. I have family member that is a politician, that rubs elbows with Govenors, Senators, Judges, and the AP in this region of the country. So that's an easy given. I have studied up medicare complaint systems to make sure the fines cost a lot. I have found sites that allow family members to sue for this kind of thing, there are 15 of us qualified. Figure we'll just release it all a little at a time to make sure this guy's life sucks as long as he is alive.
I don't feel that the Fed/State fines, prolonged law suits, negative press this jerk is going to experience for the next 10 years is enough. GMA is THE most angelic person any one could ever encounter. I don't even know if she will endure the surgical attempts to save her life that will ensue.
Any one have some more ammo? I will make this idiot's life not worth living, as he has made GMA's. For all the "little guys", thanks.
As far as the lawsuit, you would need firsthand knowledge of some sort of neglect, documentation that you saw this and you told them and they failed to use due diligence. Too late. All the money in the world won't bring GMA back to good health. Just be closer, make her comfortable if you can. That is what she really needs now.
He had a blood clot that was NOT diagnosed in spite of various ER visits.
He had gangrene develop and very quickly grew on his foot.
I was filled with anger, but as my story progressed, I had to chose whether to focus on recovery or "revenge".
He went to ER again various specialist later they wanted to set a stint to prevent clog from going to lungs, then dependent on the circulation, proceed with the amputation. Dad was 89, his circulation below the knee was minimal, the doctors wanted to take the entire leg or at least to the knee. I wanted them to do the least. I knew at his age, any more than the foot would kill him from depression, he needed hope to walk again. I advocated, I pleaded, I prayed and I stayed in the hospital room until I spoke to every single doctor. They amputated half of his foot and scrapped/ removed his heal almost to the bone. He was none weight bearing for close to a year but he worked out every single day and by end of year he walked again.
I will not lie to you the post op year was rough, anesthesia and morphine can make the elderly very batty and combative, but we got past that her recuperated mentally as well.
He lived another three happy years. I can only imagine how guilty I would have felt if he had required and not survived further surgeries, but I really felt he would have made that choice himself....BTW he was cognizant, but afraid and he asked me to decide for him.
I share this in detail, because there are some similarities and I had a happy ending
Advocate for her the best you can, these things are very complicated and you never know how they will work out....the only measure of success is that she know you love her and you are in her corner.
I wish you and your grandmother the very best.
L
It's a question of what to spend your energy on, you see. First things first, get her better. Have you spoken, by the way, to your grandmother's own doctor?
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