Elderly Grandmother with Dementia. It has now become unsafe for her to live alone. Her children are unable to take responsibility for her and she refuses nursing home placement and in home care. What will happen to her? Are there any options in her case?
My Mom lived in a senior housing apartment for many years. It was inspected periodically (annual? semi-annual? I don't remember.) for cleanliness. This included everything from the bathroom to the inside of the fridge. It included things like dangerous extension cords and tears in carpeting and anything risky. If the resident couldn't maintain clean and safe conditions, they were asked to leave.
If GM keeps firing in-home help, perhaps she will fail inspections and be forced out that way. It might be for the best. Who could she be angry with then?
Don't "protect" her from the consequences of her inabilities. The manager should know about the stove fire, for example.
Then expand on all the positive things about the retirement community.... someone else does her cooking for her, she is served in a restaurant like atmosphere.... she will develop new friends [never know there might be someone there she already knows and like].... and everyone will be able to sleep at night knowing that she is safe :)
I know, too bad it doesn't go as smoothly as that, but worth a try.