My 92 year old mom has dementia. She has lived with my husband and I for 10 years. The last two have been crazy difficult due to her condition. 10 days ago she was offered a Medicaid bed at a really sweet memory care home near us. It is a miracle she was placed since she has no assets. I know intellectually this is a very good move. The problem is the guilt. I had no idea it would be this hard. My heart goes out to any of you who have had to place a parent.
I am sorry you are going through this, but believe me you are not alone. It will get easier to compartmentalize it somewhere in your brain eventually, but don't regret your decision as in the long run it is best for her.
Put your best foot forward and continue to be the good daughter that you are. Time to give hubby some special attention. It has not been an easy time for him either.
Shane and Amygrace. Crying is a good thing. It helps to wash the pain away
It wasn't easy raising us kids either and our parents just did what they thought best for us. Now we kids are having to do the same for our parents.
Give it time, 10 days may feel like a lifetime but it isn't even 2 weeks.
Huggers.