Mine is a little bit different story, dad was living a pampered life for 4 years with 24/7 personal caregivers at home... now his money is all but gone and I moved him to a beautiful facility that his long term care insurance will cover... he is acting awful, hates everything, won't eat or sleep. I can't even stand to talk to him it is so stressful and painful for me. He insisted on staying home for all those years knowing that his money was running out, but somehow now everything is my fault. I am moving forward with selling his home so I can replenish his bank account... that is the ultimate crime in his mind. I know he is selfish and spoiled but I also know that if he dies in the next few months I will feel like I caused it.
Hmmm… does he respond to flattery? Because he's done well to fund that level of care for so long, AND he had the foresight to take out good insurance cover. That was good planning on somebody's part - what about telling him how clever it/he was?!
Don't torture yourself thinking he will imminently decline and fall. You haven't moved him because his health deteriorated, it was a financial decision: the odds are he will continue quite happily or even possibly improve, thanks to more sociable surroundings. It's a horrible transition, very stressful, but you've done it all correctly. Let this rough time pass and all will be well. Big hug.
I have a feeling I will be dealing with the same thing with my mother when that time comes. She's had a pampered life, too, very spoiled. Dad on the other hand is the total opposite, he'd be happy anywhere you put him :]