My husband and I have not been intimate in 4 years. He is like 8 yrs old. Totally incontinent. There is no passion or even touch any more. He sleeps in a hospital bed. I care for him 24/7. I can't help wanting to be held in a romantic manner by someone else. Some of my family are encouraging me to see someone else away from home. Others don"t care for that idea. I'm lonely. 56 years old should the the highlight of my life. He was robbed of his mind and I was robbed of my happiness. How do I fix this problem?
Angel
Now sex does not have much to do with our relationship. Just a good friend to go out with, happens to be a male instead of a female. I have no regrets.
Life is short and we all will be dead along time. Carpe Diem.
Wedding vows aside,try saving your own sanity.
am so glad that your daughter agreed to help you out , thank god for lit girls :-)
going out does help and i am glad that reading this help ya out and also glad that u decided to give this site a try .
let us know what ya find . i wishi could save all pets there at the pound . proud of you ! and so will the dog !! dan will be happy campers , now all 3 ofyou can go out for a walk and let the dog go to the bathroom , excerise and people will stop by and brag about the new furry baby :-) .
the whole new outlook for ya jules :-) .
love,
miz
I said I wasn't coming back but here I am. I just wanted to check on you to see how you're doing. Your thread got hijacked by someone else and unfortunately I concentrated on her and not you. I regret that. You are a loving and faithful wife. Your husband, somewhere in his mind, knows and appreciates what you do for him. A night of dancing must have been so much fun. A good way to get rid of stress. Take care of yourself. We all care about you.
I have a Westie (my son's dog) and my liitle Yorkie (who I call my little child substitute since my son is a teen-ager now). My little Lucy is soo sweet; she loves to cuddle and just be close. My Westie loves to WALK and it is a great stress-reliever to get off on some kind of a trail with him and just walk some of my stress away.
I'm glad you went out dancing and had some fun. And without one impure thought - Whohoo!
glad u went out and went dancing ! i love doing that too . every once in a great while me and my gfriends would go dancin , eat at mexcian place and get wasted on margaritta and bam off to the dance floor . it sure does feels great and happy smilin faces .
thank you for replyin back to me and now i feel so much better , big hugs to you jules and keep comin back . let me know if u did get u a dog . i rescuse a dog from the pound last mnth , suppose be my daughter s dog but now its mine . i know he respects me cuz i saved his life . hes too hyper but he is calmin down some , he knows i do not like him jumpin on me , those claws !! terrible , scars i got now , tons of em .
keep in touch ,,, xoxo
i have been thinking about you and wondering if youre doing ok . i dont want to leave you out and i dont mean to shut the door on you . i was shuttin the door at karen .
i hope all is well at your area and i sure hope you ll find you a companiship . i know what its like to be lonely till my sister came to live with me to help me with dad . he is 88 yrs old and bedriden too . so sad to sit ther and watch a helpless guy layin there . suxs .
hope you have a good evening and hope to hear from you again soon . xoxox
Did you ever have so-called "impure" thoughts -- being with someone else -- when your husband was 100%? Before becoming a widower at 28, I fantasized about it a couple of times over 9-year marriage. But never did it because I'd rather be with the woman I married. (Even did a "Cost Benefit Analysis Scale" and there was nothing on the plus side. Plus I'd feel really rotten afterwards.) Nowadays, whenever I have a moment of indecision, I ask myself "Am I going to regret this?"
Find a support group and drop some of the guilt with others who feel like you do. 1-on-1 counseling could help, but you might encounter a lot of reflective listening in the form of a sex-less individual who paraphrases everything you say, throws it back at you, and then bill your insurance. Church might make you feel even guiltier.
In the end, your husband's personality and the type of relationship you've had over the years will probably determine which road you take.
Good luck my friend.
What happened to Jules? She has abandoned her own thread!!!!
Because we all on this thread, the GO thread that is, have a loving spirit, whether we feel we are directed by Jesus to do this or not, KT was shown kindness, graciousness and concern when she revealed her mother's problems. Bravo Ladies! Kindness is never overlooked.
I will not come back to this thread to see what if any response was made to my comment. It was to emotionally draining to me to read as much as I have already.
KT, I truly hope your mother improves and that you have peace in your life. My heart goes out to you and your family for the self sacrificing attitude you all have shown with your mother.