My husband and I have not been intimate in 4 years. He is like 8 yrs old. Totally incontinent. There is no passion or even touch any more. He sleeps in a hospital bed. I care for him 24/7. I can't help wanting to be held in a romantic manner by someone else. Some of my family are encouraging me to see someone else away from home. Others don"t care for that idea. I'm lonely. 56 years old should the the highlight of my life. He was robbed of his mind and I was robbed of my happiness. How do I fix this problem?
It is tough and I am not sure how I would handle it myself, but my prayers are with you for sure. By the way....if you get a dog get one big enough to cuddle on the couch watching tv!
Questions of ethics and loyalty aside, I can't imagine when I'd have time for an affair! I barely have time to sleep, let alone have time to find someone else to sleep with. It just sounds like too much work. :)
I think Carol is right. Think through your decision carefully. You are the only one who can decide what is right in this situation.
One option may be to have the marriage desolved and for you to simply be his caretaker/Power of Attorney and so forth. Then you would be legally free to date and meet others also in need of affection, nurturing and love.
It may be untraditional to do something like this, but your sanity, well being and quality of life are just as important as your husband's. A compromise may be the way to go.
Best of luck,
Jenny
Carol