In the state of Texas? My mother was able to walk and talk. and do things for herself but when I was working she collected stuff, where there was only room to walk in. I had a care giver, that work for a company that is closed now.They brought in this guardian group acting like friends, and started taking pictures with out permission and no warrant. Then they brought in attorney acting like a friend . I had to ask if he was attorney. He admitted he was. They took me to court and took all legal rights away from me.Now the judge put her in a convilent home, and they accuse me first of hitting my mom, which I didn't, and they could not prove that, then they accuse me of cussing at my mom, which I didn't. Which there was no proof. I found out that they were over medicating my mom. What can I do to get control back of my mom, and get out of the convilent Home and control of the power of attroney again?
Good luck! I hope you'll be able to visit your mother as much as you would like.
The first step I'd take is to get rid of the hoard. If you can't do that, I don't think you'd ever stand a chance of getting your mom back home.
I cleaned out a two-bedroom, 2-bath, hoarder house with a full basement and walk-up attic by myself while I was on chemotherapy for breast cancer. It took me three days. As much as I hate to read between the lines here? I think you yourself were part of the problem.
If you were not (I'm making a big assumption here, by the way), then you were overwhelmed.
While I was lamenting my task as the cleaner-outer of this hoarder home, I spoke with a village employee who came over to do an inspection. He told me a story: He's always driving around the village on task. One day, as he was driving around, he saw an old man standing at the front door looking out the large window in the door and waving. He waved back.
Three days later, neighbors called police. He was found pinned to the front door by junk that had fallen in on him. Quite dead.
Hoarder homes are dangerous. They're often feces-invested filthy messes stacked floor to ceiling with nothing but, pardon the expression, crap. If your mom was doing this to the extent that social services got involved, they felt you were over your head with your responsibilities and did what they did for the safety of your mom.
Jessie's got the right idea. Make nice. So you can visit mom unhindered. Leave it alone and try hard to let it go...
At some point it apparently became clear to some agency (APS?) that your mom's welfare was at risk. That might have been because of the hoarding or other conditions in the house, or simply the fact that she now needs more care than you can provide and also work full time. It is expensive to place a citizen in a care center, and it is only done when it seems necessary. I understand how hard this must be for you, after how much you tried to take care of her, but now you have a chance to relate to her as the loving daughter, and not have to worry about her daily care.
Just being in a different place will confuse your mom for a while, and that can effect her behavior. If she is on new medications it may take a while to fine tune the dosage and find what is the right amount for her. Different people react differently to the same drug. It is possible to over-medicate someone unintentionally and the solution is to make adjustments as needed.
Have breakfast with mom before you go to work, or stop in after work for a brief visit, or drop in to say goodnight. Visit at different times of the day and get to know the staff on each shift. You might not be her POA any more, but you are still her daughter and still able to help her be comfortable.
She is not being punished. You are not being punished. Someone is trying to look after her welfare. Work within the situation as it is. Take care of yourself. Keep loving your mother!
you make friends with medical professionals by putting your trust in them .