An employee of the nursing home my mother resides in set up a home visit for my mother. No one at the nursing home contacted me. Is this permitted and legal? It wasn't a visit to determine if she could live independently at home. The employee works in the maintenance area at the nursing home.
This is so inappropriate it isn't even funny.
I would be finding out what the maintenance worker is up to and getting locks changed.
The main thing I need to know is if your mother is fully capable. If she is NOT, then such a visit is off the boards WRONG. So wrong I cannot honestly believe that it happened. What proof do you have that this did happen? Why did your Mother want to go there? Was there something she wanted to retrieve, and was capable of asking for help in retrieving it from the home?
Lots of questions here. If your mother suffers from dementia you may not be getting the full story. Please check with administration and let us know IF, when and why this happened.
My basic question is whether the nursing home should have contacted me prior? Am I over-reacting and should just let it slide?
If you have POA you can request that you be notified of all trips away from the facility and with whom she is going. My dads facility wanted me to put controls on his leaving and I refused. He's a big boy and he can decide if he wants to go with someone. Not to be callous but honestly what is the worse thing that could happen, death? Better quickly than wasting away in a facility that he hates.
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