My wife has been in memory care for about 1 1/2 weeks. She is extremely agitated. They have given her anxiety medication but it does not seem to solve the problem. I have been her primary caregiver for over 5 years. Any insights would be appreciated.
If you are visiting every day, stop. Seeing you reminds her she is not home and increases her agitation especially if yiu, yourself become anxious. Visit once a week until she settles down.
Have you talked to the facility social worker? Who is prescribing the meds?
Does the SW think it might help her get settled if you stayed away for a week or so?
It is very important that you learn to take a step back and allow the medical professionals do their jobs to the best of their ability. It is very difficult for loving family members to do that. Just remember this is about what is best for your wife and it takes some time to figure out.
Don't bring her back home. Just know the transition will take more time for everyone.