Has anyone else experienced this? I am the sole POA /healthcare for mom as well as her primary caregiver. We have lived together for 2 yrs. She is 92 and reasonably healthy, some dementia/alzheimers going on. I have 4 siblings, one lives in the same town and is retired . The other 3 do not. I am wanting to move within the state, 4 hrs away. My younger sister lives there and I would get much help with mom. Currently I get no help with mom and it's getting more difficult doing its alone. I'm wondering how is the best way to handle "breaking the news" to the other siblings that I intend to move Mom. I'm trying to balance this and still be considerate to their feelings, realizing I cannot let them dictate to me what I should or shouldn't do. Any suggestions?
Yes of course you should notify them! But only as the kind of ordinary courtesy that you'd offer them if you were just moving yourself, mother or no mother, yes?
If you are her primary caregive or care manager now; then they should respect you and your family's needs. If they want to step up to the plate and make the decisions, then you should be prepared to let other sibs play a role in her care -- but I doubt they will offer to take over.
Do whats best for you and mom regardless of sibs opinions.