My mother moved to assisted living on Thursday afternoon. We took all of her medications, otc and prescriptions. They were all turned in. She had two pill organizers filled with her medications which she takes AM, noon, and PM. Different ones at different times. She also turned in the remaining medications in the bottles that clearly state her prescription and the prescribing doctors. We understood this was protocol and had no issue, but they never gave her the noon and PM medications that first day. Nor did they let her have some of the otc meds like Tylenol, allergy medicine, mucus relief, etc.
Next day, they brought her about half of her meds in the morning all at once. But they have yet to give the others, and have not given the diuretic and prednisone so her feet are very swollen. She has complained each day. They said they sent an order to her primary doctor on Friday to approve the other meds, but have not heard back and won’t until Monday of course. He did approve her otc meds to have in her room, but then they sent another order for the prescription meds they did not give her. I guess I am wondering why they were not all approved from the get go? They are prescribed from several specialists ( cardiologist, pulmonologist, urologist) but her primary care doctor should have all her prescriptions on file, correct?
So, Saturday night she calls me to complain again about her medications. She was on the phone with me when the staff member came in so I heard their conversation. The staff member was a little annoyed and short with her, and told her there was nothing she could do until the doctor’s order came through,etc. My mother gets very snarky with people, especially those “waiting” on her needs ( including me!)
Anyway, it is a situation where she just has to wait till Monday, and she can’t accept it.
But it concerns me why this wasn’t taken care of before hand? How could this have been avoided? We thought we were doing as they asked, but clearly we should have gotten pre-approvals from her PCP before she moved in(?) My sister and I have never dealt with AL before. There seems to be a lack of communication, which my mother has zero tolerance for. She can be very difficult, but she calls me and there is really nothing I can do at 10:00 pm on a Saturday night! I hope to get it straightened out, but in the meantime, she us saying things to staff like, “so people just die on the weekends because you can’t get ahold of the doctor?!!” I told her she was not going to die; she had been given the more important meds. It’s only been two days…..what am I in for?
this won’t work with a dementia patient tho.
Is your Mom capable of taking her own medications? My brother was on Level I and was able to administer his own meds.
If your Mom is not able to administer her own meds safely this will sadly take some time. I am a bit surprised that the number of meds and number of MD orders and how this would all work wasn't completely discussed with the MPOA and Mom prior to going in.
I hope they will get this together quickly. It has a bad effect on Mom's overall trust going in, and isn't a good thing.
I'm all for protocol. I think protocols are great, and nothing makes me happier than a checklist and an entire manual of Standard Operating Procedures.
But a protocol that does not follow the process complete from one end to the other is not a protocol, it's a tripwire. And this ALF's protocol did not start where it ought to have done, at pre-admission. A four to five day hiatus in your mother's medication routine because THEY didn't either get her ducks in a row themselves or advise you on the requirements for doing it for her is flipping outrageous.
Make a formal complaint with a view to the ALF's treating this as a learning experience and improving their admissions procedure. I don't care how common it might be, this is *poor*; and worse, as Alva points out, gets her off on the wrong foot. Not Fair.
Your mother should be getting her meds on the times prescribed. Her water pill, IMO, is important. I will be surprised if the pharmacy does not tell them the same thing I said.
Is this an emergency with any of her meds? If it is, get hold of the DON and her physician to straighten out.
If not, let your mother be snarky. She will reap what she sows; people will find her annoying. Not your problem.
If mom is symptomatic from lack of this med, I would call 911 and have her taken to the ER.
IF your mother has been signed up for the medication administration program at this ALF, then they should have had this matter all straightened out before she moved in. I'm sorry you're going thru such a thing, and can only imagine the aggravated calls you're getting from mom. My mother also felt she was The Only Resident living at the ALF, not one of 100 people, and that as soon as she needed or wanted something, the CGs had to stop what they were doing to see to her every need. That's not to diminish this matter about your mother's meds; just to empathize with you about your mother's Me First attitude. It's hard (nearly impossible) for them to learn how to wait their turn in life, I know.
I hope this matter resolves entirely in short order. I would also highly recommend you sign your mom up for the docs who come into the ALF to treat the residents. That was the smartest move I'd ever made with my folks and facilitated a much easier run of things in general. Give mom a while to adjust to things too, and see if you can get her OUT of her apt and socializing with the other residents so she's not hyper-focused on what's 'wrong' and complaining 24/7
Good luck!
I appreciate all who responded. I think we have finally resolved the meds situation for my mom, but not without serious damage done to her transition to Assissted Living! Those first days should have been so positive and reassuring to my mom and to us, her family. It was her reluctant choice to go to AL, and they really blew it. They definitely got her off on the wrong foot. I hope they can repair it, but I’m not sure. They just affirmed all of her fears about AL: that she will have no freedom; that once they are paid she doesn’t matter; that no one will listen; that she is being “ warehoused” till she dies”. And, they undid all of our reasons for suggesting AL in the first place; her meds would be well attended so she wouldn’t forget(ha!); she will have trained personnel assisting her with bathing,
(she went 6 days without a shower after they told her at intake that she would have bath or shower twice a week!)
I finally got her bladder control medicine approved yesterday, but it still was not given till today! I do not understand why it took so long. We turned in the medicine that clearly showed her prescription and the prescribing doctor, but for some reason it was not on the primary doctor’s MAR . I called his office and he called me back directly, and texted to he that he had approved it and it still took another day!
I spoke to the AL director about all of these missteps and to the nurse in charge of meds. I told them that she has not left her room in 6 days because she has not had her bladder control medicine and she has not had a bath! She is self conscious about both of those things of course! Whenever we asked any of the CNAs and/ or other staff, nothing. No one knew anything, or they would “find out” and come back, or they passed the buck. One shift would blame the other shift. I asked why they did not communicate with each other at shift change?
We tried to remain patient over the weekend because there is not much anyone can do about that. But her first shower should have been on Friday, and no one knows why she was not bathed. And as I stated before, she did not get ANY of her meds on the first day! Just so many things went wrong that should have been in place seamlessly. My daughter used to work at a very large county health facility and she said that this small, local ALF where my mother is, is so lucky that we have not reported them. I told her we will if anything else happens. We were so hopeful that in our small town, this beautiful, small ALF was available. It’s minutes from my home, it’s relatively new, clean and has residents whom she knows, and has great reviews.
I just can’t understand why this first week was so poorly handled. I have documented everything so if we have to file a complaint or meet with the head director, we will be prepared. I think we have been patient long enough. NOT the experience we were expecting.
As for the shower situation, that's familiar too. Until last week she wasn't given even one shower without my asking and she went as long as 12 days without being bathed. I was even lied to and told that she had a shower but refused to have her hair washed etc. My mother might not be able to tell me she had a shower last Tuesday but can absolutely tell me if she had a shower today. I feel like the administrative/office staff avoid eye contact and scurry away when I go in the office.
I worry about the residents who might not have family nearby or someone to advocate and look out for them.
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