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He calls me sl*t. Horse, fat, makes lies and gets peope to feel sorry for him. He stated if he goes down he’ll make sure I go down. Should I put him in a home?
Yes, I would place your friend in a home. You certainly don’t deserve to be treated like he is treating you. I realize that he has ALZ but that doesn’t mean that you should be hurt by him.
Please think of yourself as an equal to your friend. You matter just as much.
Best wishes to you and let us know how things are going.
Who owns or rents the place where you both live? If your friend does, do you have the right to ‘put him in a home’? Do you know anything about costs, and whether he can get Medicaid? What is wrong with him anyway? You need to do something to stop all this, but it sounds as though you need to know a lot more about ‘the system’. Is there some reason why you can’t move out? What does he mean by ‘if he goes down, he’ll make sure I go down’.
If you can give a bit more information, posters can suggest where you go for help about all this. Stay with us.
Yours is another example of insufficient information. I go to your profile and find nothing there. You posted under Alzheimer's, is that his diagnosis? If not, what? Do you live together or do you visit? If you live together, do you have authority to evict him? What effect does his behavior have on you? How long have you been tolerating this?
I assume you're asking the forum what can you do? What are your options? If he has AD, loss of inhibition and sensitivity is one of the unfortunate symptoms. Certainly his verbal behavior is mental and emotional abuse. Abuse doesn't have to be physical. The solution, assuming there's no clinical intervention that can modify his behavior, is separation. If you've tolerated enough, and I hope you have, and he can be left on his own, you need to leave. If not, he needs to be placed in a care facility. I'm sure he would resist that choice, but if he can no longer make rational decisions because of his illness, you must. If you don't have the authority to make healthcare decisions for him, call your Area Agency on Aging and get a social worker involved.
We need to know your situation. Does "he" have dementia? Are you his caregiver? Have you ruled out problems such as UTI? Are you his POA? Is this unusual behavior for him (that is to say was he a calm, gentle and rational person before this? Do fill in your profile for us so we know a bit more about you.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Please think of yourself as an equal to your friend. You matter just as much.
Best wishes to you and let us know how things are going.
If you can give a bit more information, posters can suggest where you go for help about all this. Stay with us.
I assume you're asking the forum what can you do? What are your options? If he has AD, loss of inhibition and sensitivity is one of the unfortunate symptoms. Certainly his verbal behavior is mental and emotional abuse. Abuse doesn't have to be physical. The solution, assuming there's no clinical intervention that can modify his behavior, is separation. If you've tolerated enough, and I hope you have, and he can be left on his own, you need to leave. If not, he needs to be placed in a care facility. I'm sure he would resist that choice, but if he can no longer make rational decisions because of his illness, you must. If you don't have the authority to make healthcare decisions for him, call your Area Agency on Aging and get a social worker involved.
Are you his caregiver?
Have you ruled out problems such as UTI?
Are you his POA?
Is this unusual behavior for him (that is to say was he a calm, gentle and rational person before this?
Do fill in your profile for us so we know a bit more about you.