Howdo you help a severely dependent elder break away from abuse?
My Grandmother is in her 90's and lost her husband at a young age left with two young children. She never learned to drive. My father stayed around till he was in his late 40's before he moved our family 1000 miles away. My aunt was left to solely care for my Grandmother. She pretty much was the only one who my Grandma relied on as they lived only streets away and my grandma cared for my cousin daily from infant till 15 years of age. As my Grandma got older and failed in her health which she is doing really amazing my aunt forced her to sell her home. Moved Grandma in with her and her husband and took over all her bank accounts etc. My Grandmother is being severely mistreated in the mental capacity with constant fighting, financial theft and etc...She has called us crying day after day for years. Every time we try to get her to leave she agrees but then her daughter will come home and find out and tell her that if she goes she can never come back, she will no longer be her daughter, she will disown her, bla bla bla. and it terrifies my Grandmother. My Gram knows she needs to leave but she cant get the courage to leave the state and come with us (there is no family any closer for her to stay with). I am afraid if we go and get her that she will have a heart attack from the stress, and her death will be on our shoulders but I cant stand to see her suffer. What can we do?
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