I have a friend who lives 4 hours away. She is quite older than myself, but still is a dear friend. Her husband died last year from cancer and she still grieves terribly for him. She has sent me a card in the death of my dad, and I am writing a letter and would like to know how to address her grieving, what to say about the difficult time she is still having coming to grips with her husband's death. Does anyone have any suggestions of what to say, how to word things? I would so appreciate it...Thank you! 3 sisters
I have been a widow nine months. I am amazed at how long the grieving process is continuing. We each grieve in our own ways, at our own pace.
For this letter, I suggest keeping to the topic of your father's death. Say how much it means to you to have her support. Say that you are sad and that you are taking comfort from the many friends who have contacted you (or whatever is true for you). In other communications in the future you might share your grieving experience. Tell her about an incident that was very hard for you, and ask her what kinds of things she finds especially difficult. She might benefit from having someone she can open up to.
I became a widower at the age of 28 and never re-married. With her passing, every now and then I feel as if a part of me died with her. My sons have her eyes. They utter phrases she used to blurt out when they chatterboxed too much: "I bet you flap your gums in your sleep;" or when she was stunned by something: "I almost dropped my dentures!" (she didn't wear any).
People say I'm married to a ghost. ... But that wonderful woman is everywhere. We'll meet again when my time comes.
Eddie-
So sweet. Blessings to you and yours. (((( hugs )))))