My mom has liver cancer and it is terminal, but first they need to get the extreme amount of fluid out of her stomach. I've been sitting here beside her for the last 12 hours as she begs for help from my father, sister and me for the pain. Meanwhile, the hospital isn't helping any because they say they don't want her confused! How do I deal with her begging for help I can't give?
My father was in much pain during his last week of life. I was running around looking at SNFs to discharge him to. Hospital workers were doing OT and PT. It was crazy, because everyone knew he was dying. WTH. Finally I said, "We want to bring in hospice" and everything changed. Hospice got there that afternoon, unfortunately a few minutes after my father died. If I had known on the first day what I figured out on the last, it would have been so much better for him.
Thank you all for your support and kind thoughts!!!
How could the hospital compound everyone's suffering by not providing adequate pain relief for your mother? Can anyone explain this too common situation?