I have read about many of you talking about sundowners. Tonight my mom got really agitated and was asking me questions that made no sense she asked me to sit down and listen to her and she was having conversations in her head. She got really upset so I gave her a Xanax she said what is going on and she was scared. I hugged her and had her go lay down and try to read the paper does this spud like sundowners?
How did the xanax do? If that helps her, then keep doing it. Check with her Dr also. Xanax is so addicting... perhaps it's better to be addicted at this point than scared every night. Sigh. Sorry, I am not much help... I detest evenings. So far all noted suggestions have not helped my mother.
Just keep an eye on her during the start of early evening. Take notes as how she changes. It is no fun for her nor you.
Before she went on the antidepressants, she would sometimes tell me that she was scared, she didn't know what was happening, or that she thought she was in a dream. She would ask me if things were real or not. She doesn't say those things anymore.
I would discuss it with her doctor and see if there might be some other kind of medication that could help. Xanax didn't help my cousin very much.