Hi everyone, my LO has been getting progressively the last few months, the biggest problem I've been facing is every day without a minute break, she wants to go" home " ,or she needs to pickup someone, or someone is coming to pick her up. She keeps repeating this over and over ..she gets dressed and insists she has to go out..when is this going to end? IT'S DRIVING ME INSANE.. it goes on for 4-5 hrs a day ,then it begins again at 10 pm. after she's dressed for bed ,wants to get her clothes back on to go out ...ANY ANSWERS ?
The constant repetition can certainly be related to anxiety, and it sounds as though she may be past the point where she’d be able to tell you if something was bothering her.
My mother did far better in residential care when this would happen than she did at home with me. Remember, care requires a balance.
I don't know if/when this stage of the process ends, either. Perhaps your mother's doctor can prescribe a mild sedative to calm her down a bit, but who knows if that will even work? There seems to be a malfunction in the part of the brain that governs the 'home' message with folks who suffer from dementia, because SO many repeat this same mantra. They have no idea where 'home' is, or what it even signifies, just that they don't belong where they're at and need to be elsewhere. It's a quest for comfort, I believe, or for a place and time when they were happy and not suffering from this debilitating dementia syndrome.
You can try getting her a baby doll to 'care' for, which often helps as it gives her something to FOCUS on rather than where she 'needs to be'. Being needed again seems to calm down some elders with dementia, even men. When I worked in a Memory Care ALF last year, we had quite a few men and women who carried around and cared for baby dolls which kept them occupied for hours. You can get one on eBay for a reasonable price; be sure to get a swaddle blanket too.
Wishing you the best of luck with a tough situation.