SIL is morbidly obese, bed bound, unable to rehabilitate due to non-compliance. She lives with our daughter and her family. Our daughter works full time as home health RN and has three active children and husband. SIL deliberately buys stuff online with no regard to the bills she should be paying. Overdraws her bank account every month. Owes seven years back property taxes and doctors bills but still spends her social security check without paying the bills. We are paying for her sitter and home health care out of our pocket because no health care companies take her Medicare Advantage. We are running out of money. And we are running out of patience. She expects us to make all doctor appointments, call insurance and social security. When we tell her to do it herself she makes up excuses.
Can we just put her in a nursing home?
Your daughter may have to go through an eviction process if your SIL is her predictable passive-aggressive self. SIL will maybe qualify for things like section 8 housing, Medicaid, etc. Contact social services for her county where she lives to see. Also check out her local area's Council on Aging for their many resources, as well as Benefits.gov and BenefitsCheckUp.org. Good luck!
And she has two dogs, too, that she doesn't clean up after!
Since this is your SIL, I hope your H is also on board with having her placed somewhere (at least removed from your D's home).
She has Tennessee Medicaid but the choices program that handles home care is not available since my daughter lives one mile across the Tennessee Mississippi state line. We will have to make the appointment and take her to her house for the health assessment. Then when we get the TN Care choices reinstated we can move her back to her house.
As far as the back taxes she is paying in them but it will be sold in tax sale in May if the taxes for 2013 through 2016 are not paid. After that if she hasn’t done what she needs to do we will just put her in a home if we can find one that will take her that quickly.