My husband is currently in rehab. Social workers tell me I am in denial because I have not "chosen" for him to go into a facility. Prices I have been quoted are more than our entire income. I have no choice but to bring him home. Why do they pretend that I have a "choice"? "How long can you take care of him by yourself at home"? they ask, and tell me I am in denial. Well, I thought I was at the end of my rope, but I have just found there is no end.
Have you asked the SWs "How can we afford this?" and laid out your financial picture to them?
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If he qualifies medically and financially for Long Term Care Medicaid, you, as the "Community Spouse" will not be impoverished. Please ask the Social workers to explain how this works.