My husband is having frequent accidents of loose bowel movements. I am quite old myself and it's very hard for me to clean up. Whenever he wears cloth under pads he drips feces on the carpet and soils his clothes terribly, He gets angry because I don't let him use regular underwear. He says the disposable underpants are very uncomfortable.
It's kind of strange that the corporate world isn't as much "on" the issue of underwear for this problem, but seems wholly focused on bladder incontinence. Seems to me there's probably a ton of money to be made from providing a reliable, comfortable product!
It did help a lot with compliance when I switched from maxi absorbancy to moderate. I'm thinking about switching even further down to minimal since she's still pretty much continent with only the occasional accident.
She also really managed his diet so that he didn't overeat, greasy/fatty foods; had fiber, yogurt, etc. and got him on a schedule so that accidents were less frequent or at least less explosive since he would go more regularly before they left the house.
THe only other option is to get additional help for husband in the house to care for husband and manage his hygiene. Maybe you just do so at night but he gets care all day.
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I know with my mom, the biggest problem with fecal leaks has been where it comes out the edges of the leg hole. Fortunately I'm getting better at staying on top of changes, and she actually now prefers the Depends Fit-Flex to having a big bulky pad in her underwear. She says they feel like real underwear.
I agree that we women are more used to the indignities of "down there," from the time of our first menstrual period!
My husband preferred the security of disposables to the possibility of embarrassing accidents. Doesn't your husband get embarrassed at leaking? I wonder if having him do the cleanup would drive the point home?
So the next time Dad had an "oops" she handed him the cleaning products and he had to do the cleaning. After a couple of times of Dad doing the cleanings, I noticed Mom had on her grocery list "Depends for Dad" :)
I am just recovering from some of the most virulent diarrhea, along with vomiting, fever, dehydration, inability to eat anything heavier that clear liquids. I’ve been very sick and the doctor just says ‘stomach flu’. In dispair my husband picked up a new Depends called women’s panties, maximum absorption, no tapes but pull up and pull down, I’d say these Depends are comfortable and look like a little ‘girdle-ette’.
But women spend a good portion of our lives using products for their various bodily functions. I was thrilled my DH thought of this, I was delirious and so sick I couldn’t stand without help. The poor man mopped the floor repeatedly because I had no control at all. This was a first for me: my wearing of Depends and having no control over diarrhea and vomiting violently!!!
Let’s shop online and see what’s available. I certainly hope your DH has a temporary sickness and this isn’t something new and permanent!
When I was browsing for incontinence care supplies I noticed many major brands offered free trial samples. Why not have a look and see what's available?
I haven't personally tried them so I can't comment on whether your husband is being a fuss-pot or not. But I must admit it used to cross my mind to think we should all be required to wear anything we recommend to others, just to see how we like it.
In my defence - I DID put myself in the Hoyer lift and swing myself around in it before I used it on mother. But that was actually quite fun, and pads are not of course...
Other posters with more experience might have better suggestions.