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You can't. Unless your cousins are incredibly rich and their mother is a) their acknowledged dependant and b) broke, paying for her care is not their responsibility. How did providing her care come to be yours?
You say you've been caring for her for five years, she's now 70: so what led to a 65 year old lady needing her niece's care in the first place?
Give them notice of the day you will quit. As to paying you back pay, without a contract they don't have to pay you anything, and it seems unlikely that they will. So sorry you are going through this.
The obvious question to me is why isn't your Aunt paying you?
Is there an assumption help by your family (Aunt, cousins & yourself) that you (as female?) MUST provide the care labour? For free?
Imho if however, you chose to take this on.. you can also un-choose.
It's OK to say it's not working anymore - I need to change this. But assuming the cousins will pay you may lead to bitterness. Start planning for yourself.
Unless you have a contract that spells out the job you do and for what pay you are out of luck. If she is ever hospitalized you can say that you are not responsible for her and give all of her children's name and number for the hospital to contact. How did she happen to become your responsibility? And do you have the authority to make decisions if need be? Are you POA? Is she cognizant? If so you could tell her that you can no longer care for her and you will have to contact one or all of her children and make arrangements. If she is not cognizant and you no longer wish to care for her I would contact an Elder Care Attorney and tell them you can no longer care for her. If the children do not respond she will be made a Ward of the State.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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Give them 2 weeks notice and then drop their mom off to them. It isn't worth your life to continue.
You say you've been caring for her for five years, she's now 70: so what led to a 65 year old lady needing her niece's care in the first place?
Is there an assumption help by your family (Aunt, cousins & yourself) that you (as female?) MUST provide the care labour? For free?
Imho if however, you chose to take this on.. you can also un-choose.
It's OK to say it's not working anymore - I need to change this. But assuming the cousins will pay you may lead to bitterness. Start planning for yourself.
Since she is living with you, where is her SS to help pay u for her care and offset room and board. Do you have POA.
Time to tell your cousins that you can no longer care for their Mom. She is beyond your care. THEY need to place her.
If she is ever hospitalized you can say that you are not responsible for her and give all of her children's name and number for the hospital to contact.
How did she happen to become your responsibility?
And do you have the authority to make decisions if need be? Are you POA?
Is she cognizant?
If so you could tell her that you can no longer care for her and you will have to contact one or all of her children and make arrangements.
If she is not cognizant and you no longer wish to care for her I would contact an Elder Care Attorney and tell them you can no longer care for her. If the children do not respond she will be made a Ward of the State.