He won't stop drinking. He gets violent. He at times doesn't know the difference between his cell phone and the tv remote. He doesn't eat a lot. I can't get him to shower. He refuses all medical appointments then gets mad about not receiving medical care. I have too much of my own life to deal with. I can't care for him any longer. Please help
Please also consider getting your own life into a good place. I suggest checking out Al-Anon - a support group for family and friends of alcoholics. These folks can help you learn new ways of dealing with your uncle. Celebrate Recovery is a Christian-based version of Al-Anon.