I'm 22 yrs old. I hardly get time to myself. I barely make any money, and I did not grow up with my mom's side of the family. The details are in my "about me" on my profile. I'm just so upset at how my life is turning out and I'm seriously not happy. I don't know what to do anymore.
You need to quit.
We see people give up their home, their lives, their states, their jobs and their apartments to move in as caregivers.
Almost without exception they end up
Jobless without a job history
Homeless without a rental history
and in a shelter until they can find a job and find a room, hoping to save for a small studio apartment.
Your twenties are for learning how to stand on your own. Look for a roommate ad. Give notice that you will be quitting and give the date (as Aunt's caregiver). Move in with your roommate and get a job. Go to school. Learn a profession that will help you in your future. Caregiving is a great way to start. Get hired by a Nursing Home, become a certified aid and work your way up to RN so you, too, can be paid 65.00 an hour as you would be in my city. It took me to age 40 to go from Aid to LVN to RN, but I did it slow and certain. You enjoy giving care? I can promise you a rewarding a secure life in which you can get a job anywhere.
It is up to you.
My advice is to give notice. Start with a job, any job and work your way to a rewarding a secure life in which you are not beholden to ANYONE simply to have a roof over your head, not an elder, not a boyfriend, no one.
I wish you the best.
I don't know if you remember the later Little House book where Laura qualifies as a teacher and has to lodge with a married couple? - who argue all the time, and one night one actually pulls a knife on the other... What I loved best about those books is they were NEVER cutesie, you always felt you could have been there.
Anyway. It is incredibly stressful for anyone to live in a family where there is conflict. Ditto, where there is chaos. Ditto, with uncertainty. So you have quite a lot of factors piling up there.
I have a lot of questions - so where is the home you moved to California from, and why wasn't it an option, e.g. - but they will wait. What I suggest just as a sticking plaster is that you look at your calendar and decide by when you will move on. Make it a SMART goal (specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, time-bound) and then you can plan the steps you need to take towards it.
Also - look up your local Area Agency on Aging. I expect your aunt is not actually "an elder" as such, but this is often a good starting point for information about organizations and support groups near you.