I have been with my husband for about seven years now. His father had a stroke about five years ago and shortly after we moved in with his parents to make things easier for everyone. He lost a lot of motor function but he is too stubborn to use his cane, walker, or chair most of the time. He is also verbally impaired, despite this he is constantly trying to talk to us but we cannot understand most of what he says. He is no longer as cognitive as he was. His attention span is very limited and he has regular mood swings. My husband had to drive his father to appointments, things were really messy around their house, and we needed affordable housing so we could save for our future. So, this was the logical solution. Last April, I quit my job to do school full time while my husband works so now I’m home most of the day. His father is starting to make me feel uncomfortable. He always stares at me (we have an open concept kitchen) so if I’m cooking or cleaning he just sits there and stares. He has the TV on to the full volume so I have to listen to music via headphones, and I can still hear his TV over it. He doesn’t do anything but sit there and then goes outside to smoke cigarettes and this is all he does. I’ve tried to get him interested in coin collecting, activity books, etc. But he much rather sit there and listen to the news all day at about 100% volume. I know this is coming off as whiny, I get it. But, I have walked in on this man touching himself in the living room. And I just don’t want him to continue to stare and make me feel uncomfortable when all I’m doing is trying to help my family. I’m not sure what kind of help I am looking for, but maybe someone else has gone through something similar and can help me feel less uncomfortable about the whole thing. Thank you for taking time to read this.
I personally would not tolerate it and I would tell him that he is a filthy pervert and you are his sons wife. What kind of creep lusts after his sons wife. I would tell him to stop staring everytime I caught him doing it.
His wife I am sure did not envision her life as this reality, so she probably isn't going to help you.
Stand up to him or make arrangements to live somewhere else.
Best of luck!!
This would make me uncomfortable too. Just keep your eyes open. Don't allow him to corner you. If he tries anything, make it clear that he is inappropriate and you aren't interested and tell your husband. If he ever hits you, call the police. He maybe in early stages of Dementia. Sex can be a big thing and he is not that old. Where is his wife?
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