I feel guilty to visit my Mum daily in the nursing home. She had a massive cerebral bleed over 5 years ago and as the RN of the family I feel responsible to make sure she gets the best of care. She is pretty well taken care of but is easily upset. Consequently I feel upset seeing my mother crying. It is taking a toll on me and don’t know how to cope. Please can anyone offer me some advice.
If you are going everyday and come away feeling better or feel she's better, then I guess you'll need to adapt.
How 'with it' is she? If she has lost a sense of time and place, she doesn't even know you've been there. You're torturing yourself.
Being an RN makes it harder, I'd think, b/c you don't wear rose colored glasses around her. You KNOW what's going on and it's hard to accept.
It's OK not to visit daily.