I’ve been with my boyfriend around 2 years and he’s got a disabled mother with a number of health issues, lack of mobility diabetes etc. She just stays in her bed 24/7 and has carers in twice a day.
I've never really been around anyone with mobility issues and being disabled.
She just does my head in, she’s very controlling of my boyfriend. For example, when we’re out, calling him a lot of the time and texting him. I understand he has to help look after her. But it’s like he has no life. She just always causes problems between us, arguments over things. Like I’ve got it in my head he’ll never be able to move out and we won’t be able to live together cause she will always be his number one priority.
I have spoken to him about it but he just brushes it off and says I’m being stupid but nothing much changes.
I'm getting to the stage where I’ve had enough but I do love him. I was wondering if anyone could give me some advice. Thanks
I see from your profile that you are 23 years old, still very young. If your parents are still around, some day it will be your turn to make sure they are being cared for. So, if you are still with your boyfriend, you will know that he fully understands what you are going through, and will jump in to help.
Ask your boyfriend if there is anything you can do for his Mom. I bet once you get to know her, the arguments will settle down.
I think you maybe realizing there is no future here. I really don't think there is anything you can do for this woman. Start backing off. See if he notices or cares. If not, you have your answer.
Never be stupid in love.