My husband has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's for almost three years. He is now totally dependent on me, and I have very little assistance. I feel like I am in prison and don't know how much longer I can deal with his problems before I totally lose it.
Your husband needs to see his doctor and be evaluated for possibly being sent to a memory care unit in a nursing home. I there is not enough money for this or even to start it, then find somewhere that will take medicaid and start the medicaid application process. He needs this change and so do you. You have sacrificed far too much of your own well being in all of this and you are to be commended for your outstanding efforts, but now is beyond the time for outside help from professionals who are trained to deal with this.
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