Mom is under hospice in my home. She suggested I tell Mom she would let me know how, who and when she would come.
I did.
Now I have a long list of reasons why she can't.
How do I help Mom- what do I say to her now?
Mom has been given less than a month.
It is so hard to get through this.
Hugs back at you.
In this situation, this is not your circle. But, what a difficult position you are in if your mom is asking for her!
If your mom is able to talk, can you call your sister for her? You might be accused of blindsiding your sis if she doesn't know the call is coming but putting you in this terrible position isn't right or your responsibility.
Wishing you peace through this journey.
Why should you have to deliver the message to mom? Not fair to you. Are her reasons valid for not being there?
Others may be reluctant because they have problems with the issue of death and dying. Don't be their excuse for not connecting because of "whatever".
I'd take the therapeutic lie path. "I'm not sure of the exact plans mom but she's trying to get here soon."
Your sister who is not coming is the one who may have some guilt, etc. to deal with unless she has a reallly good reason for not coming to say goodbye. Sad.
Thank you so much for giving advice.
It was nice to have the support.
Unfortunately, my Mom passed on Monday.
She asked me Saturday when will she be getting here. I told her I had no definite answer yet. And then by the evening she had started slipping away.
I'm so grateful I could hold my Mom and be here for her. It was hard, but man I wish everyone had this when they pass.
Goodbye.
Peace.
Memories.
❤❤❤
Hugs!
So sorry for your Moms passing.