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You're smart to get help. Overloading yourself can really harm your health. Please let us know how things work out. I don't know of anyone who have used this type of service before.
I just read your profile and believe that, as is commonly addressed here, you need to establish some boundaries, which wouldn't include taking your mother to storage to select the clothing she wears.
Start backing off and establishing what you will or won't do. Don't be manipulated; stand your ground.
And ask the ALF if there are SWs to whom you could speak. I think they will probably tell you the same thing - start diminishing the catering you're doing, stand up for yourself, draw the line, and when you do start backing away and not being available as you are now, you'll begin to feel better.
Keep track of the time that's wasted, for example, in taking her to the storage facility to get more clothing to wear, and use that time for something you enjoy doing.
What were your spare time activities before you started on this literally captive journey? (It's clear that you don't want to do what you're doing and don't have good feelings toward your mother, but it's helpful that you admit that. Now it's time to do something about it.)
Start the separate process. Depersonalize it if you have to - think of a NASA rocket during takeoff and eventual separation. You're that rocket and you're approached separation time.
She pays her rent, right? Then she can pay for a geriatric care manager or personal assistant. You can order supplies online please don't subject yourself to her abuse.
Jetcity, your mom's ALF has social workers that either work directly for them, or are affiliated. You can schedule a time to talk to them and find out about various resources in mom's area.
Oh, if your mom is in AL, then, I'd ask for a meeting with the Resident Care coordinator. Explain your issues and see what can be done. Normally, the facility will have a team meeting to discuss issues and try to come up with options. I found that very helpful. They have the nurse, Med Tech, social director, etc. all come together to compare notes and discuss issues. I found their recommendations to be quite helpful. They may have a social worker on staff. You can inquire about it.
Yes I need a therapist I'm searching for one now. My mom is paying her own way. I can't back off cus who's going to go buy diapers and ointments and stuff? Who's going to take her to Dr appointments. This ALF is more of a board and care. They don't have a director or SW. This is a residential home with a bunch of rooms and beds and Philippino people who come and go more frequently than I can keep track of. That is ALF in so cal. There is no residential care coordinator. I pay 3500 for a room. And people in the house to make breakfast lunch and dinner and a shower every other week. Ali: thxs, you seem to understand. This thread is my only support. Thxs everyone
Do you have medical insurance? If you do, contact your insurance company and find out how they handle coverage for therapy. They may have a list of providers that you can chose from.
Is your mom eligible for Medicaid? You are not responsible for your mother' s care. Even if she tells you that you are, you're not.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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You're smart to get help. Overloading yourself can really harm your health. Please let us know how things work out. I don't know of anyone who have used this type of service before.
Start backing off and establishing what you will or won't do. Don't be manipulated; stand your ground.
And ask the ALF if there are SWs to whom you could speak. I think they will probably tell you the same thing - start diminishing the catering you're doing, stand up for yourself, draw the line, and when you do start backing away and not being available as you are now, you'll begin to feel better.
Keep track of the time that's wasted, for example, in taking her to the storage facility to get more clothing to wear, and use that time for something you enjoy doing.
What were your spare time activities before you started on this literally captive journey? (It's clear that you don't want to do what you're doing and don't have good feelings toward your mother, but it's helpful that you admit that. Now it's time to do something about it.)
Start the separate process. Depersonalize it if you have to - think of a NASA rocket during takeoff and eventual separation. You're that rocket and you're approached separation time.
Your mom needs to pay ger own way. Do you have POA?
Is your mom eligible for Medicaid? You are not responsible for your mother' s care. Even if she tells you that you are, you're not.
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