I have health and financial POA. She's not taking treatments. Taking off for hours, I believe that she is drinking again. Smoking again. Has copd,heart disease,diabetes and cancer. Goes out to Sr center after getting out of hospital and was told by Drs to take it easy,stay home. she has become very defiant,missing Dr appts. she no longer wants me to take her to her appts because when she is not honest with her Dr's I tell them. She does not stay on the diet that has been given to her that i work so hard to make healthy meals for her she eats them but eats unhealthy in between and when I'm not here with her. She still drives witch I think she should not be able to do. She is titally shutting me and my husband out of her business. When I first moved in with her she wanted my help with her Dr's and her bills. Now she hides everything and complains when a bill doesnt seem right she called the cable co and was very rude to them when all she had to do was to let me handle it. They charged her for boxes she didn't have and when I told her that was the problem she freaked out on me telling me to mind my own business. She is running her oxygen without water and said the guy from open air told her to run it without water. I know that this is a lie because when we had a problem with water getting into the hose I called them and they suggested to change the filter and hoses if that didn't work they may have to send out another machine. She does not want me to call them. She has told me that it is non of my business. I am at my witts end and do not know what else to do for her.
If "something" happens and she gets taken to the ER, stand firm and refuse to take her home. Discharge planning will find a placement for her. When she complains, you tell her that she has a chance to work WITH you on finding a place she would like, but that the idea that she can be cared for you alone is now out of your hands.