I have worked for 7 years with a disabled veteran and his wife. After a long battle with poor health, his wife passed away at home on Friday the 12th. I am having a very difficult time with her death and yet I'm still having to care for him and be supportive. How do I take care of me and deal with my grief while helping him with his?
You and maybe him too should talk with a grief counselor.
The other day I saw the term ‘grief bombs’, which is where the most innocuous event brings out tears of grief. Maybe seeing the loved one’s favorite food in a grocery store. I experience this over my brother who is in a nursing home with hospice due to a terminal brain tumor. I don’t resist it, but instead experience it and it’s over quickly. We all experience grief differently. If you make room for your own it should be easier to make room for his. It’s not an either/or situation.
I think talking about the lost loved one is cathartic and a great way to process your grief and be supportive of someone that is probably hurting worse then you.
Remember her funny sayings, her quirks, the best of her and laugh through the tears.
I pray that you both are given grieving mercies and comfort during this difficult time. May The Lord bless you.