How do I repsond to elderly parent when they show you or tell you about people they are seeing who are in house but not really there? My mom often see people in and around house. Asking me when I let them in or she wants me to tell them to leave. Once she told me to speak to my father who is deceased. She see's babies and children who say they been here a long time. Or ask me dont I see this one or that one. Or dont want to leave them in her room. She locks dog up there sometime. how do I handle these hallucinations
1) Have the doctors rule out any immediate cause. My aunt had a uti. Cleared up the uti, the hallucinations went away. (She lived to be 100 and that was the ONLY time she hallucinated.)
2) My husband's hallucinations were early symptoms of Lewy Body Dementia. Other kinds of dementia include hallucinations, too, but in LBD they tend to happen earlier. This was/is the cause of hallucinations in my support group.
3) My hallucinations were part of ICU Psychosis. No one was particularly disturbed about it and they did stop on their own.
In all cases, the medical professionals should be told of the symptoms.
Generally, hallucinations don't need treatment UNLESS they are very disturbing to the person having them. (This is after causes like a uti are ruled out.) If the things the person sees aren't frightening them, just try to go along with them.
If the visions frighten the person, comfort them, reassure them, and perhaps "solve" the problem by sending the bad guys away, asking for police surveillance (on the weather phone line) or offering other protections.
Don't argue about whether the hallucinations are real. Of course they are real. Your loved one sees them! Depending on the loved one's cognitive abilities it may help to talk about "very vivid dreams happening while you are awake" or "what the dementia is doing in your brain" or even Lilacalani's Thought Forms. Never do this in an argumentative or dismissing way. Take their visions seriously, but provide explanations IF that seems to help them.
The husband of one member of my support group saw children in his house often. He was a minister and his inclination was always to help them, feed them, etc. When he wanted to know why his wife wasn't setting places for them at the table she'd say something like, "Oh they had graham crackers and juice a little while ago and they are watching a nature show right now. Their parents are coming for them soon and it wouldn't be good to spoil their dinner!" He accepted this.
When my husband saw bats in our bedroom at 3 am I asked if they were bothering him, and then suggested we wait until morning and if they were still there we could chase them out with a broom. We both went back to sleep.
DDDuck, you'll have to keep an eye on the dog's welfare but otherwise it sounds like you may be able to just go along with most of the delusions.
To briefly mention the UTI, I'm very puzzled by the mention of a UTI causing hallucinations, I never really heard of this. I had one for about a year before it was eventually caught, and I never hallucinated, not even once. I have had early signs of a future return of a UTI, but again never hallucinated, and I found out from the first one what to do about it since I now know what one feels like for me. All I had to do was up my water intake and even drink large amounts of ice water. The first time I was on antibiotics, the other few times I experienced early signs of a return, I was able to successfully eliminate it without antibiotics since I now know what's going on and how to catch it early. I don't always like plain water, it becomes distasteful after a while. This is why sometimes people can get UTIs and even kidney infections. Even bottled water can become unappetizing to the point we simply need some flavor in what we're drinking.
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