I moved my mom in with my husband and I this past june. I thought it would be wonderful, it has been anything but wonderful. I regret doing this. I dont even want to come home to my own home. She has made me miserable since the day she moved in. She plays mind games, insults me, crys about everything, talks bad about other people, doesn't help around the house, has a you owe me attitude and on and on and on. I feel so miserable, I cant stand being around her. She will be nice one moment and then insult me the next. She calls me a b**ch and even said f*** you to me, she tries to make me look bad in front of my friends. I just want to cry . I find myself ignoring her and avoiding her as much as I can. I moved her in with me because her husband died she was living in arizona and would be by herself and she asked me if she could live with me and my husband and my husband and I agreed to have her and I need to get rid of her for my own sanity and before I hate her. The holidays are almost here and I feel that I should wait until the new year to have her go to a retirement home. How do I stay sane until then?
If she resists leaving you may have to go through formal eviction process, so keep that in mind. It is your house and you determine who lives there.
You do not, however, get to determine where Mom lives. She can go to any kind of place she can afford. You can help her explore her options, but you don't get to make the decision -- except that she isn't living in your house.
You cannot go on dreading going to your home. You have tried what your mother ask for. It isn't working. Change it.
And I agree with the others that a complete medical evaluation is a good idea, if she will cooperate.
It is not fair to you and your husband, What does he think about the situation? You would not be the first person here to have to make this kind if a change.. Don't let guilt get in the way. (((((((hugs)))))
Sorry, I've just realised how that question sounds. To clarify, I am NOT mocking you with a sarcastic rhetorical question. What I'd like to get at is the huge gap between your expectations and the reality of having your mother in your house for five months.
So, what was the original idea? What has made it all go horribly pear-shaped? And on the practical front, how old is your mother, and is there anything wrong with her besides bereavement and fear of being alone?