I live in Louisiana, and I'm currently 52. I'm in the process of creating my will, advanced directive, POA, etc. I need to know how to make sure hospitals, nursing homes, caregivers, hospice, funeral, etc. know not to allow certain visitors if I am in any of these situations. If I'm physically or mentally incapacitated, how do I make my wishes known? Do I put that in my will, POA, advanced directive, etc? How do I make sure they have no say in my medical care? I don't want them to visit, have any say in anything, and i don't want them at my funeral. How do I ensure my wishes are honored? This is not a rash decision. There have been serious attacks against me made by these family members. Thank you.
As to not having anything to say about your treatment that is or should be included with your advance directives. Just make sure you have spelled out what you want, what you don't and make sure it is signed the way it needs to be signed.
A document we have in Illinois is called a POLST, it goes by different names in other areas but it is VERY specific about treatment and what you want and don't want.
As for your funeral
Pre plan it and pre pay for it.
You do not have to have an obituary so it is possible that there are going to be people that will be unaware of your death,
What you should do is have a close friend or relative that you appoint to be your "gatekeeper" and let them deal with those that you want to keep away.
I would ask friends to find 2 large men to stand outside the church, and nicely handle it and if not call the police.
I'd say have it in writing on your will also. That will also protect the guys protecting the church.