I have had a live-in caregiver for 18 months. She recently start stealing from me, taking stuff and pawning it. The job came with room and board. To make her move out, do I have to evict her, or can I just change the locks and hope she goes away? She has always been good with my wife and I hate to lose her, but I can't trust her any longer.
Second, I would evict her.
Hopefully, you have actual evidence of her stealing. This may be your best way around the situation. If you have proof then you can file a police report and she would be arrested. Then - you would be able to apply for a restraining order- keeping her away from your wife, your property and you.
Once she has been charged there is no guarantee she would be put in jail or if put there - doesn’t make bail. Hence, the need for the restraining order. But do work with the police to arrange a time for her to be escorted to your home to collect her personal belongings.
Be sure to have her sign a forwarding address, give it to you to give to the post office as she gives you the key, as you say you will mail her pay to that address today.
Change the locks.
Inform the necessary neighbors if needed.
Personally, I don't think she's going to go through the whole effort of filing against you when she's guilty of stealing from you and that's hanging over her head.
What is the thief going to do with your belongings when you leave to the pawn shop?
Sounds like a drug addict's sad sob story, imo.
It is not exactly repentance if you have to pay. Maybe only an emotional con in order to stick around?
You have kept her working there? You hate to lose her?
A simple call to 911 would have done it.
So sorry for you and your family.
What have you been paying her anyway? Maybe it is not enough?
Anyway, don't think that you really need advice anymore.
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