My mom has been in assisted living since her stroke which left her with dementia. Nobody is her guardian or POA so we cannot do anything for her with means of getting Medicaid .. we have no access to her info to file for Medicaid. Meanwhile she's in assisted living and has run out of money totally. Only get $1200 month SS, nothing else. She cannot live alone or with with someone she is bed and wheelchair ridden. She can't walk or do any ADLS herself she has limited memory so she cannot take care of anything financially. We are stuck she is going to get kicked out and I can't do anything to help. What will they do with her when they kick her out... I don't know what to do...
Social worker can help with medicaid application and moving her if necessary.
Just a warning, DO NOT SIGN anything the facility may ask you to. They may try to make you financially responsible.
It will all be okay, you know. Not even the most heartless facility will put your mother on the street, or leave her in her former home unsafely (they can't. They'd be in HUGE trouble). They can only send her to another safe place. There may be reams of paperwork and hours of chewing your fingernails but stay strong and it will pass.
Also. You do realise that absolutely none of this is your fault?
A lawyer who says no sorry and can't think of anything more helpful than that? A facility that has no social work support of its own and doesn't stir its brain cells to suggest where you might find some?
Stone me.
But, exactly what Glad says. Keep going, you will eventually encounter someone who isn't a complacent brain-dead chocolate teapot. Remember, your mother is not the first person to be in this position and she will not be the last. There IS a way through, simply because the facts are the facts and they're what have to be dealt with.
If you did not sign her admissions contract into the AL, then it’s going to be very hard for AL to stick you with any of his. What AL will likely end up doing is contacting APS and APS will contact the court to get an emergency guardianship placed on your mom.
Emergency guardianships are done all all the time from an APS request. Guardianships are usually heard in probate court and probate judge should have a list of vetted by the state guardians. They’ll take over & deal with mom’s care and getting her financial eligible to get her onto Medicaid.
I’m assuming that your brother - who died suddenly- was the point person for all things mom. If so, guardian may need access to brothers banking if he paid for things for mom or their $ was commingled. If he died without a will, then he died “intestate”. Usually for intestate deaths all assets escheat to the state and heirs have to go thru a process to establish heirship (like you hire an atty to do a Lineal Heirship). In a way the court appointed guardian is ideal as he can petition the court for any heirship your mom is due from her sons death.
Unless brother died with significant assets plus a paid off condo, it might be easiest to let state take over his probate & heirship mess. The guardian could petition court to have mom be his heir and her needs and bills get paid from his estate when it sorts itself out. Unless you’re in a really big city, there probably only going to be 1 probate court and 1 probate judge. It will make things simple for the guardian and the state. You’ll likely have to sign off your heirship as would any other siblings but it could be the solution for mom’s care and it’s costs.
This is not going to be easy as you’ll find yourself wanting to go and take her into your home. But letting the state become her guardian can be a workable solution to the situation. If the guardian asks for info from you, please be ready to give him whatever you know. But if your brother was mom’s point person, the answers to many ?s related to your mom died with him. That’s your story and you stick with it.
If so, this is setting the stage legally for them to evict her and the Notice should have it CC’d to APS, the State Dept of Aging, Area on Aging, a probono legal clinic. Or some combo of these. So it sets everyone CC’d on Notice as well.
If it’s you that has been mailed the 30 Day AND if you want her to become a ward of the state, I’d suggest you send a certified mail letter with the return registered card (these from the USPO and under $10) to the facility within the next 10 days. In the letter - keep it brief - you state in P#1: your share their concern for her, however, you are not able to provide the level of care, safety and security she needs. Include that your brother (put in his name and address) was the point person for your parent for her finances and health care. And that all information on her and access to her assets was known to him alone which is unfortunate since he died suddenly on.......
InP#2, you state that you as her relative will place no objection to her becoming a ward of the state of Michigan if that is determined to be in her best interest to be able to provide the level of care she needs. Close with “Thank you for your attention to this matter and any future communication must be in writing.”
The return registered receipt card (green postcard) is important, as it gets mailed back to you and will have a date and signature as to when received by the facility and by whom. I don’t know if for all states the RRR is considered legal, but for TX it is and can be entered in court if need be. For under $10 it’s the cheapest legal verification out there!
Personally I would not mention anything about the outstanding bill in the letter. Make it all about her care & safety.
.? For you, the $1200 SS each month, has it been paid to facility?
If it’s set up for the facility to be the payee, that’s great.
If you are a signatory on her checking account and can write them a check each month to use her SS to defray her bill, that needs to happen. But it sounds like you aren’t on her banking so that’s not an option.AND for more fun SS can’t do a thing unless mom personally makes the change at SS or there’s a guardianship done as SS doesn’t recognize DPoA even if you had one. It’s another reason why ward of the state is a good move as guardianship is a court order and cuts thru the SSA hurdles. Whatever you do, DO NOT touch any $ in her bank account.
Remember your mantra is “my brother handled everything for mom and unfortunately he died taking all info and details to the grave”
Good luck & let us know what happens. We all learn from each other.
From the clusterF you described, your mom is way way WAY beyond being suitable for AL. I bet they took her as she looked like she was going to recover from the stroke and be just fine in AL. The way you described her care needs, She’s like needing a NH and this poses a quandary for the AL as they can’t put her on a bus. The AL is hoping you / your siblings / your elderly Aunt will relent and Take responsibility for her care. If you can’t do care, you gotta hold firm in all this.
What AL might do if family doesn’t come and get her or pay her bill, is the AL will find a reason to send mom to the ER and from the ER she gets either admitted to the hospital or placed under observation at the hospital. AL won’t take her back. This could magically happen like at day 27 of the 30 day countdown. Lol!
Thanks for the kudos, you can give a nice donation to a food bank for me.
Thank you. Kim
And try another elder law attorney.
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