When she was released from rehab she lied and said someone was going to be staying with her. She lives alone. We do have a nurse that comes 1-2 times a week, but my aunt misses her meds, has fallen, The Protective Services are involved again, If we don't hire home care or pick a place for her to go, they will pick a place for her, She just says"Let's see what happens". The nurse asked me what did I want her to do, go put the meds in her mouth? That would be nice.
Has she been an independant sort her long life?
I guess this is a "I will live at home as long as possible" sort of situation?
Then when she's unhappy with how it 'pans out' you can honestly say you tried to help her and she refused.
We're right there with my MIL. She NEEDS to be in assisted living, won't even entertain the thought, so we're just sitting here, waiting for the next fall or UTI that puts her over the edge.
I am surprised that the rehab released Aunt without confirming with family that she would have someone with her. Especially if 24/7 care is needed. Its an "unsafe discharge" otherwise.
My decision would be to place her. Hopefully someone has POA if not...then the State will make the decision and she does not want that. Can she afford 24/7 care? That could cost 10k a month and who is going to coordinate her care. Aides are human. May not show up for a shift because of a family emergency, sick themselves.
What do you think a Dr. can do. He cannot force your Aunt to do anything. All he maybe required to do is sign papers saying she is in need of 24/7 care.
It’s an impossible and stressful situation. You have done all that you can do. Most likely, the other shoe will drop and decisions will be made for her. They may not be the decision that anyone likes but her lies will be the cause.
You have not caused any of these problems. Obviously, you care deeply. I feel for you and for your aunt.
I am so sorry that you are dealing with this situation. Wishing you peace during this challenging time in your life.
Keep us posted on how things are going. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.