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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
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I think it’s a transitioning time for you and the patient. I feel it’s completely normal to feel a range of emotions.
If you cannot or do not desire to care for them, you don’t have any other choice but to allow them to enter a facility, especially if they are in need of medical help. Then take comfort in knowing that they will be in capable hands.
Not prying, but if you care to share more details then please do. Sometimes it helps to vent. No one will judge you. It’s extremely hard to be a caregiver.
I think we all feel a little guilty about leaving any LO in a care facility. The women I knew who had to do this, was because the husbands were becoming violent and a threat to them. Both ladies were in their 80s.
You need to realize when you can no longer do it. That your physical and mental health is now effected. And no matter what you do for them is not going to improve the situation. I know what it was like taking care of a Mom who weighted maybe 140/150 lbs at any given time. I can't imagine what it would be like taking care of my 215 5ft 10in husband. Who...can be stubborn. I have promised him nothing other than I will care for him as long as I can. I am 5ft tall. Can't promise that he won't go to a NH. And I pray I never have to make that decision.
For you to make this decision he is beyond what you can do for him. This is a horrible desease. It robs people of their past and their future. Know that you did all you could for as long as u could. He now needs to be where he is.
Guilt is a self imposed emotion telling you you're doing something wrong. What are you doing 'wrong' by placing your spouse in a care community, exactly? When dementia/Alzheimer's is involved, it generally reaches a point where in home care is literally no longer possible & the loved one requires 24/7 care in a place which is staffed and secured. I work in such a place as a front desk receptionist & get to interact daily with spouses. Some come twice a day to visit their husbands or wives, and it's a win-win situation because they get to KNOW the spouse is being cared for properly, and then they get to go home and sleep through the night w/o worrying about the spouse escaping, hurting himself or staying up all night wandering around.
Remember that you are one of a two person team here. It's not ONLY about your spouse and his care; it's also about YOU and YOUR care and YOUR life. When your life is being so badly compromised that you can no longer function, it's time to do something about it and to let go of any guilt because it's not warranted.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
If you cannot or do not desire to care for them, you don’t have any other choice but to allow them to enter a facility, especially if they are in need of medical help. Then take comfort in knowing that they will be in capable hands.
Not prying, but if you care to share more details then please do. Sometimes it helps to vent. No one will judge you. It’s extremely hard to be a caregiver.
Take care. Hugs!
You need to realize when you can no longer do it. That your physical and mental health is now effected. And no matter what you do for them is not going to improve the situation. I know what it was like taking care of a Mom who weighted maybe 140/150 lbs at any given time. I can't imagine what it would be like taking care of my 215 5ft 10in husband. Who...can be stubborn. I have promised him nothing other than I will care for him as long as I can. I am 5ft tall. Can't promise that he won't go to a NH. And I pray I never have to make that decision.
For you to make this decision he is beyond what you can do for him. This is a horrible desease. It robs people of their past and their future. Know that you did all you could for as long as u could. He now needs to be where he is.
Remember that you are one of a two person team here. It's not ONLY about your spouse and his care; it's also about YOU and YOUR care and YOUR life. When your life is being so badly compromised that you can no longer function, it's time to do something about it and to let go of any guilt because it's not warranted.
Best of luck!