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I have been wondering the same thing! My 91 year old dad, only with Trazadone, sleeps 4-5 hours early in the evening, like from 7 - 12. After that, it's cat naps the rest of the night and day, unless I keep him really busy. The busy days don't seem to affect his time asleep at night. I thought he'd be snoozing more, but it seems the older he gets, the less he sleeps!! And the more he talks! I'll be interested to see what other experiences caregivers are having. He has the most comfortable bed in the house but he won't stay in it for anything!
As much as they want. It is common for the elderly to go one of two ways, far too little sleep and far too much sleep. People with Alzheimers do a thing called "Sundowners" where they are literally up for hours of an evening and well into the night, in a daze, but moving, walking, talking, sometimes making sense, most times not so much. They catnap throughout the day but rarely sleep at night. Some people, are simply tired and their body "wears down" easily, especially if they weren't active when younger. Ask him questions about his youth, his parents and grandparents, etc. Ask him about his teenage years, if he was in the military, find out what he did. If he's wanting to talk, learn all you can about him before it's too late. You'll be glad you did, and a lot of times, this will help them sleep through the night as the memories bring them warmth and security. If he has old photo albums, get them and go through them together. This also will help keep his mind sharper and will tire him as well so he can catch a little more restful sleep.
Be sure you have him on a regular meal schedule as this can also contribute to longer sleep, just as a disruptive schedule can cause all the catnaps. If he hasn't had a check-up lately, get one done. His electrolytes could be off, he could be low or high on potassium (both cause similar problems), be sure he doesn't have a urinary tract infection or congestive heart failure as both of these cause discomfort and prevents them from sleeping at night. Also check for restless leg syndrome and have his prostate checked, this can make any man restless and up and down all night. There are several other "afflictions" that bother the elderly. It's sometimes as simple as an antibiotic. And sometimes, it's just the body wearing out and all a caregiver can do is be patient and loving. Again, just getting the photo albums out and getting involved can sometimes help.
GOD BLESS YOU FOR WHAT YOU'RE DOING. And don't forget to take care of you and your family while this is going on.
Jaye, if it is just the pills that are a problem at this point, I wonder if hiring someone to come in for a couple of hours a day, perhaps to help her get up, get dressed, take her pills, etc. would be a better alternative that assisted living for now.
My Moms 92 and once off her aggitation medication due to being in the next stage, shes been so very happy!! The only problem is that I had her awake 20 hours a day and I was exhausted, I needed a break. We just started a nightly pill and she sleeps beautifully again 12-14 hours a night. I keep music on for her 2 hours in the afternoon and she usually stays awake with her feet moving.
All I see of this question is "How much sleep is normal for a 93 year old?" Was there more to it that I missed? This really varies tremendously, depending on many things. My 93-year-old MIL, who I cared for 24/7 for the last 20 months of her life, when Alzheimer's had led to dementia and she could not care for herself, slept a lot during the last six months or so, although she would still often get up multiple times during the night and wander. Lack of restful sleep was one of the most difficult conditions we both coped with during that time. When she woke, I would often make her warm milk or cocoa with a cookie or other light snack. This is such an individual thing, as are appetite, speech, and mood. Is your concern about too much or too little sleep?
Thank goodness my mom sleeps relatively well. The goes to bed most nights by 7 because she is so tired. I don't know if she really sleeps then because she is up and down every 20 to 30 minutes or so to walk around, check doors go to bathroom etc. Finally about 9 she settles in for the night, but up to bathroom about once an hour until 7 or 8 in the morning.
I have been wondering this same thing... My 86 yr old Mom seems to want to sleep all the time. ALL I ever hear is I am just so tired.... She is on an antidepressant and a cardiac med however I have a TERRIBLE time getting her to take her meds. My Father died 3 yrs ago already and I know she misses him terribly (I do too) thus the anti-depressant. However none of it does any good if she does not take it!!! Can someone give me ideas to help remind her about her meds... I have put up notes for her(which she ignores) they are set up in planers. I am feeling VERY much like it is time to think of assisted living my concern is it costs so much and it will disorient her. thanks everyone, take care...
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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Be sure you have him on a regular meal schedule as this can also contribute to longer sleep, just as a disruptive schedule can cause all the catnaps. If he hasn't had a check-up lately, get one done. His electrolytes could be off, he could be low or high on potassium (both cause similar problems), be sure he doesn't have a urinary tract infection or congestive heart failure as both of these cause discomfort and prevents them from sleeping at night. Also check for restless leg syndrome and have his prostate checked, this can make any man restless and up and down all night. There are several other "afflictions" that bother the elderly. It's sometimes as simple as an antibiotic. And sometimes, it's just the body wearing out and all a caregiver can do is be patient and loving. Again, just getting the photo albums out and getting involved can sometimes help.
GOD BLESS YOU FOR WHAT YOU'RE DOING. And don't forget to take care of you and your family while this is going on.
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