My father is full time. He quit dialysis 2 weeks ago. I'm a cook now as my second job. I'm freaking out. I'm 26 going to be 27 this year.
I don't want to quit. I dont want to snap at my dad. But also I don't want to snap at work either. But I feel like this is the only way to express my concern. And other caregivers actually understand. But in all realities. Can I even do the other job as well? Please someone just help me out.
1. It's important to discuss with your father a routine in the home. Discussing things will allow purpose
2. Ensure that you maintain regular social contact with friends etc. Even if it is once a fortnight. Also you need to have a few hours a week lone time so developing someting that interests you will take your mind off your responsibilities for a while.
3. Your father also has to feel part of his community so encourage him and/or invite his friends round for a light meal or just visit.
4. Ensure that you both try and maintain the routine to facilitate the balance
These are just four simple steps which i hope helps...Cheers and good luck..
They will provide you with a bit of help a few times a week.
My guess is ..unless he began dialysis again ...your Dad has passed and I am sorry for your loss.
Sorry to hear what is happening. I know there is a lot on your shoulders between caring for your dad and working to support yourself. Its hard to know where to look for help. I hope you can talk to a social worker, hospital staff, counselor or access some community resources. There are options.
Talk to your dad's doctor. If your dad is ready to pass, he will need hospice care.
Take care and let us know how things are going.
I sat with my aunt the last week of her life after she stopped dialysis. It was very difficult and all I was doing was visiting with her. I was not cooking or cleaning or working or anything else but being there for her and it was very hard. She was in a hospice facility. She had a full staff to attend her which required very little besides adjusting her medicine and keeping her clean and comfortable but it was their knowledge and oversight that was needed and made me comfortable that it was going as well as could be expected. Dying is not easy. I hope you are working with hospice. Take care and come back to let us know how you are doing.
You will get all the help you need...get him placed in one of the hospice facilities. This will take the pressure off you, and will help him as his health fails rapidly now.
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/not-everyone-cut-out-to-be-a-caregiver-162192.htm