I often wonder if I'm not spending enough time, but frankly, I'd lose my mind if I spent more than a few hours a day with my mom. She lives in my house (in her own apartment), but she's in stage 6/7 of Alzheimer's and she sleeps a lot of the time, and gets mad and very agitated when anyone tries to help her - which visiting her requires, as she needs help with most things. She doesn't wander, her stove is unplugged, and she has plenty of things to eat without any help - cups of applesauce, protein bars, cookies, granola bars, cheese sticks, etc..., and I make her things she can eat without having to use utensils on the weekends. She gets fed M-F at daycare, where she spends about 5 hours and I spend about 2 hours later in the evening with her on weeknights. On weekends, she gets about 4 -5 hours of my time split into 2 visits, once in the morning and once in the evening. She has cats, so she's not completely alone when I'm working or cleaning or running errands, all the stuff I'm doing when I'm not with her. Am I spending enough time? Am I awful not to spend more time with her? I'm trying to get her care organization to send home care people to her to help her in the mornings (when I can't), but they're cheap as hell and resisting doing anything extra for her. I can't afford to hire anyone.
Take care of yourself, too.,
Carol
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