My brother has taken mom from her home and moved her in with him and moving out of state next month. I've been her caregiver for 5 years. He seems not care about how I feel about this and so he kicked me to the side of the road. We are the only two siblings. Then he called APS telling them I won't turn over to him mom's money as if they have something to do with this but I have no clue. He puts mom up to screaming at me over the phone. Now he's selling her property and has changed the locks so I cannot get my things.. He acts in full control of her whole life now as if I never existed. He's never acted this way before. He does not want me talking to my mother and turned her against me.. She's been in the hospital and my brother has told staff something because they ask me questions, comparing my story to his. Mom told me to stay away from now on because if she talks to me he won't talk to her anymore. I have no idea what right he has to take over my mother's life on a day's notice. He acts like he's never known me. I'm very hurt, frustrated and heartbroken. I've decided I will not visit her anymore. Apparently my brother has taken full control of her mind. He was of no help to either me or mom ever - a selfish self-centered do nothing brother. I feel so abandoned but I guess I'll eventually recover.
You'd still feel in need of some kind of comfort and support, wouldn't you?
How did you get control of mom's money?
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/sibling-told-doctors-i-was-neglecting-mom-as-caregiver-203327.htm
I wonder if your Mom had told your brother stories and he was shocked at what he was hearing and reacted to what your Mom had said. And now she is telling you not to talk to her because then her son won't speak to her again. She might be pitting the two of you against each other without realizing she is doing that. It's the dementia speaking, not her.
Oh, by law your brother need to allow you to go into the house to get your belongings. Call the local Sheriff's office and explain that you need to go into the house.
Who's name is on the account where Mom's money is?
You may have to contact an Lawyer that knows Elder Law.
Your brother may be "abusing" your Mother Financially.
There is a good possibility that her Doctors would also say a drastic move would not be in her best interest.