I am the caretaker of a woman with dementia who has been in a nursing facility since April. Her son has been working on all her legal and financial matters and is still trying to get her to be eligible for Medicaid. He cannot get anyone at the facility to answer any of his questions about how he can legally spend down money that is holding things up. It is a small amount....Can he pay me for 2 years ahead? Can he make a donation in his mother's name? Can he use the money himself for a home improvement? He has been working on this for months and is at the end of his rope. Thank you
Many NHs have found a way around signing a private pay contract while seeing if Medicaid is granted. In the admission contract, they'll state patient will still be charged a fee during Medicaid process only to be refunded after 30 days if Medicaid is approved.
In addition, this woman may not even be alive then. Even if such a transaction were to be considered, the son should have an attorney draft a contract by which you would be required to repay any "unused" portion of the payment allocation for you.
It concerns me as well that you seem to be taking point on this issue, when it's really the responsibility of the proxy. I can understand that you're concerned, but I also wonder if the state of her dementia is such that she is appropriately living in AL, or might need a higher level of care.
About the NH, a facility cannot find themselves to be viewed to be giving legal advice. Their role in the Medicaid process - in my experience - is to help the incoming resident or their DPOA fill out the LTC/NH medicaid application and give a list of the supporting financial documentation needed to accompany the application to the resident & DPOA; & it's the DPOAs responsibility to get all the documentation together to submit; and then the NH forwards all these documents along with their bill for the residents room & board to the Medicaid caseworker assigned to the facility.
Sonny needs to speak directly with the state caseworker assigned to moms application regarding the status of his moms application. It Is not NH responsibility to get mom qualified financially but the DPOA. The NH's social worker should be able to give him the contact info. IMO if he hasnt done this already then he needs to do this ASAP as mom is about month 7 (April -Oct) for her Medicaid application and most facilities have a limit on how long a resident can still be "Medicaid Pending". 6 mos seems to be the tipping point and after that the NH may require family to sign off on a private pay contract just in case Medicaid is denied or the NH sends out a "30 Day Notice".
If its really that mom has just 10k and no other assets or income issues and no transfer penalty concerns, doing a 10k spend down should be easy as its not much $. It could have been done back in April or May. Funeral & burial policy easily 7 - 10k; dental work easily 10k if not more (my mom did $$$$ in dental 2 years prior to Medicaid application and it was in retrospect a very VERY excellent use of her assets); new eyeglasses and hearing aids are also excellent spend downs as these go MIA at NH; multiple sets of easy on & off clothing in sturdy fabric as the laundry at NH have industrial machines and use powerful abrasive detergents. Mom could spend down 1-2k to get her legal reviewed and updated. Really 10k could be spent in a flash on her needs months & months ago.
I'm guessing that there are other issues with her application.
Something you wrote is a red flag to me......if mom is in a facility, why are you being paid as a caregiver?? And just why are you thinking that Sonny could pay you 2years in advance for continued caregiving? If she is in a facility, in theory her care is being provided for. An outside aide coming in to a facility usually is an issue both for liability and continuity of care as mom is under the orders of the MD /medical director of the facility and the staffing set by the DON (director of nursing). Outside independent aides seem to be usually not allowed or if allowed must be from a company that has liability, bonding, etc & cleared by the NH. Now some private pay NH allow for family to pay for a "sitter" and look the other way as to the sitter being there as long as the sitter understands the rules. But I'm digressing, if mom has been paying you for a while and there was not a personal care contract done & all above board with tax filing done, Medicaid could look at the $ paid to you as gifting. Did you have a legal contract & report income? Gifting of any type is NOT allowed by Medicaid and will cause the application to be delayed or denied. Sonny can hopefully explain the payments to you for caregiving for the time mom was still living in the community & had you as a caregiver, but it's going imo to be easier for an elder law atty to deal with this as its likely to be an appeal process to a transfer penalty inquiry. Paying you to caregive since April when she went into a facility is going to be an issue one way or another. If Sonny has not brought any of these concerns to you, i'd suggest you clearly ask him if there are concerns (IRS, medicaid) with payments for the entire period of time you "worked" for his mom. Sonny could be "at the end of his rope" perhaps not about a 10k spend down but a much much larger transfer penalty; if so he needs a NAELA or CELA level elder atty ASAP to deal with appeals.
$ given as a donation is gifting and not allowed.
$ given to Sonny for repairs to his home is gifting and not allowed.
All $ must be for her needs, her property or her care with proper paperwork;
otherwise it's gifting & subject to a penalty & she will be ineligible for Medicaid till the penalty period (set by days) is over.