Husband and I in our 50s. We rent from 87 yr old widowed mother. She lives alone with help from us. (Financialy with rent and other help like taking care of the property). She wants to stay in her home . we want to buy our own home but doubt she can remain in hers if we move. We are worried about our future. Any suggestions?
Tell her that you are so glad that she has the home she has and that she's had the chance all these years to enjoy it. You really wish that things could be different and she could stay forever but sadly that's not going to work out.
You & husband need to/want to have that joy she had building a home & you want to do it while you have the health to do it.
Remind Mum that you love her and will visit wherever she is.
Tell her that this is a new venture/adventure for the 3 of you as you look for and find your own new niches that will in time be "home sweet home."
Involve her as much as possible not just in finding her new home, but giving some input into yours. Even if you don't take up her suggestions let her feel apart of this as your a part of her new home.
When your all where you need to be, enjoy.